James Clear

And she's like, all right. You know, and she didn't feel like it. That's really helpful for the long term consistency. But I've talked to other couples who have said my nutrition habits actually got worse because like one day I won't feel like cooking. I'll be like, hey, can we just order out? And she'll be like, OK, fine. And then the other day she won't feel like cooking.

Like, hey, why don't we pick up something from? And you're like, OK, fine. And so you can see how it goes in both directions. And I don't have a good way to describe these upward and downward spirals that we often get into where.

Like, hey, why don't we pick up something from? And you're like, OK, fine. And so you can see how it goes in both directions. And I don't have a good way to describe these upward and downward spirals that we often get into where.

the momentum once it's moving in that direction you just kind of like it becomes your default behavior and you just sort of keep rolling with it but there's something very powerful about that in life that if you get on a nice trajectory and you got a good spiral working for you then that momentum just kind of carries you if you start to get in a downward spiral you really got to find a way to just reverse course and gain a foothold even if it's a really small thing just to get the momentum moving in the other direction but anyway there are a lot of potentials there

the momentum once it's moving in that direction you just kind of like it becomes your default behavior and you just sort of keep rolling with it but there's something very powerful about that in life that if you get on a nice trajectory and you got a good spiral working for you then that momentum just kind of carries you if you start to get in a downward spiral you really got to find a way to just reverse course and gain a foothold even if it's a really small thing just to get the momentum moving in the other direction but anyway there are a lot of potentials there

Yeah. Never miss twice is the idea that I try to, the little mantra I try to tell myself. Stuck to the diet for nine days, binge ate a pizza on the 10th day. Well, I wish I hadn't happened, but never miss twice. So let's make sure the next meal is a healthy one. And I think we all know this implicitly from going through life, but it's easy to forget in the moment, which is.

Yeah. Never miss twice is the idea that I try to, the little mantra I try to tell myself. Stuck to the diet for nine days, binge ate a pizza on the 10th day. Well, I wish I hadn't happened, but never miss twice. So let's make sure the next meal is a healthy one. And I think we all know this implicitly from going through life, but it's easy to forget in the moment, which is.

It's rarely the first mistake that ruins you. It's like usually the spiral of repeated mistakes that follows. That's the real problem. It's like letting slipping up become a new habit. That's the real issue. If you can cut that off at the source, if you can never miss twice, get to the end of the year and those mistakes are just like a little blip on the radar.

It's rarely the first mistake that ruins you. It's like usually the spiral of repeated mistakes that follows. That's the real problem. It's like letting slipping up become a new habit. That's the real issue. If you can cut that off at the source, if you can never miss twice, get to the end of the year and those mistakes are just like a little blip on the radar.

It's really about getting back on track quickly. I think actually you see this with top performers in many different industries. Like, you know, think about any athlete. I mean, this is something that like Nick Saban's teams at Alabama pride themselves on. The screw up a play or have a bad drive, throw interception for a touchdown or something. But the focus is on the very next play.

It's really about getting back on track quickly. I think actually you see this with top performers in many different industries. Like, you know, think about any athlete. I mean, this is something that like Nick Saban's teams at Alabama pride themselves on. The screw up a play or have a bad drive, throw interception for a touchdown or something. But the focus is on the very next play.

And I'm making sure that you don't let that mistake become another mistake. And the teams and the athletes that are really good at doing that and having a short memory and getting right back on track. They end up having really successful careers and you can scale that down to your own life.

And I'm making sure that you don't let that mistake become another mistake. And the teams and the athletes that are really good at doing that and having a short memory and getting right back on track. They end up having really successful careers and you can scale that down to your own life.

Gretchen Rubin actually has this, I thought it was a clever little idea, which is divide the day into four quarters. So you got like morning, afternoon, dinner and night or evening and night. If you make a mistake, keep it contained to that quarter. So you don't lose the day, you just lose the quarter. And then the next one you get back on track.

Gretchen Rubin actually has this, I thought it was a clever little idea, which is divide the day into four quarters. So you got like morning, afternoon, dinner and night or evening and night. If you make a mistake, keep it contained to that quarter. So you don't lose the day, you just lose the quarter. And then the next one you get back on track.

If you can keep your failures small like that, if you can contain the damage, then I just think it's easier to get back on track quickly and to maintain the momentum, build consistency, all the other positive benefits that we've talked about.

If you can keep your failures small like that, if you can contain the damage, then I just think it's easier to get back on track quickly and to maintain the momentum, build consistency, all the other positive benefits that we've talked about.

And to your point about judging yourself or feeling guilty or turning this into like some kind of self-berating session, playing the victim never makes it better. It doesn't make any of it easier. I think generally in life, we all have things that happen to us. Some of them are terrible things.

And to your point about judging yourself or feeling guilty or turning this into like some kind of self-berating session, playing the victim never makes it better. It doesn't make any of it easier. I think generally in life, we all have things that happen to us. Some of them are terrible things.

And you can be the victim, but I don't know that it ever benefits you to play the victim, to accept that role. Bad things can happen to you, but that doesn't mean you have to start to identify as someone who is worthy of them or someone who is, you know, it's inevitable for that to be part of your story.