James Clear

and when actions are aligned with the expectations of the group with like the social norms habits are pretty attractive and the social environment will really help like usher you along and when habits go against the grain of the expectations of the group when they kind of add a little bit of friction between you and your social relationships that's a form of accountability too sometimes not always the kind that you want and habits will be very hard to build

and when actions are aligned with the expectations of the group with like the social norms habits are pretty attractive and the social environment will really help like usher you along and when habits go against the grain of the expectations of the group when they kind of add a little bit of friction between you and your social relationships that's a form of accountability too sometimes not always the kind that you want and habits will be very hard to build

And ultimately, this comes back to one of the deepest human needs that we all have, which is a desire to bond and connect. You know, we all humans are social creatures. We all want to be a part of something, even if it's just your little family unit.

And ultimately, this comes back to one of the deepest human needs that we all have, which is a desire to bond and connect. You know, we all humans are social creatures. We all want to be a part of something, even if it's just your little family unit.

And ultimately, this comes back to one of the deepest human needs that we all have, which is a desire to bond and connect. You know, we all humans are social creatures. We all want to be a part of something, even if it's just your little family unit.

And so if people have to decide between, you know, I have habits that I don't really love, but I fit in, I belong, I'm part of something, or I have the habits that I want to have, but I'm cast out, I'm ostracized, I'm criticized. A lot of the time, the desire to belong will overpower the desire to improve. And so as best as possible, you need to get those two things aligned.

And so if people have to decide between, you know, I have habits that I don't really love, but I fit in, I belong, I'm part of something, or I have the habits that I want to have, but I'm cast out, I'm ostracized, I'm criticized. A lot of the time, the desire to belong will overpower the desire to improve. And so as best as possible, you need to get those two things aligned.

And so if people have to decide between, you know, I have habits that I don't really love, but I fit in, I belong, I'm part of something, or I have the habits that I want to have, but I'm cast out, I'm ostracized, I'm criticized. A lot of the time, the desire to belong will overpower the desire to improve. And so as best as possible, you need to get those two things aligned.

And I think the punch line is you want to join groups where your desired behavior is the normal behavior, because if it's normal in that group, then it's going to be really motivating to stick to it.

And I think the punch line is you want to join groups where your desired behavior is the normal behavior, because if it's normal in that group, then it's going to be really motivating to stick to it.

And I think the punch line is you want to join groups where your desired behavior is the normal behavior, because if it's normal in that group, then it's going to be really motivating to stick to it.

I mean, you could do it, but you're just playing the game on hard mode, you know, and it's like it's so much easier if you're surrounded by people who have the habits that you want to have and then you can rise together. This is something that I talk about in Atomic Habits. There's a chapter called The Secret to Self-Control.

I mean, you could do it, but you're just playing the game on hard mode, you know, and it's like it's so much easier if you're surrounded by people who have the habits that you want to have and then you can rise together. This is something that I talk about in Atomic Habits. There's a chapter called The Secret to Self-Control.

I mean, you could do it, but you're just playing the game on hard mode, you know, and it's like it's so much easier if you're surrounded by people who have the habits that you want to have and then you can rise together. This is something that I talk about in Atomic Habits. There's a chapter called The Secret to Self-Control.

And one of the surprising things about a lot of the research regarding willpower is that when you look at people, elite athletes or someone who you aspire to be like, and you think, oh, if I just had the discipline they had or I just had the willpower they have.

And one of the surprising things about a lot of the research regarding willpower is that when you look at people, elite athletes or someone who you aspire to be like, and you think, oh, if I just had the discipline they had or I just had the willpower they have.

And one of the surprising things about a lot of the research regarding willpower is that when you look at people, elite athletes or someone who you aspire to be like, and you think, oh, if I just had the discipline they had or I just had the willpower they have.

Certainly people can have varying levels of willpower, but the primary finding from a lot of this research is that the people who appear to have great willpower are the people who are tempted less frequently. And so they are the benefits of favorable situations. Sometimes they're just lucky, but sometimes it's a situation they design. And I always think that's an interesting way to think about it.

Certainly people can have varying levels of willpower, but the primary finding from a lot of this research is that the people who appear to have great willpower are the people who are tempted less frequently. And so they are the benefits of favorable situations. Sometimes they're just lucky, but sometimes it's a situation they design. And I always think that's an interesting way to think about it.

Certainly people can have varying levels of willpower, but the primary finding from a lot of this research is that the people who appear to have great willpower are the people who are tempted less frequently. And so they are the benefits of favorable situations. Sometimes they're just lucky, but sometimes it's a situation they design. And I always think that's an interesting way to think about it.