James Cordova

That's a great question.

So, yeah, I was raised in a community where one of the ways that we show respect

like love and affection for each other is just ongoing joshing and teasing of each other.

So this is just part of who I am in relationship.

And as it turns out, my wife is much too tenderhearted for that kind of ongoing teasing.

Oh, often.

Often.

Yeah.

No, this was something that, because it comes so naturally to me, it took years for me to really develop a sensitivity in that spot.

Oh, absolutely.

So we were in the process of shopping for a new pair of boots for her.

And one of the things that we have is sort of like an inside joke between the two of us is that she has exquisite taste.

So way more often than not, when we're shopping for something, she makes a beeline for the most expensive version of whatever it is that we're shopping for.

And it's an ongoing sort of running joke between the two of us.

So we were having a good time shopping for boots and we're heading into this like small kind of boutique boot store in Santa Fe.

And so as we're walking in, I call out to the proprietor and I say, can you just go ahead and show us the most expensive pair of boots in the store and save us some time?

Which I thought my wife would find hilarious, but clearly in the moment did not.

What was her reaction, James?

So, you know, when my wife is hurt, she gets quiet, right?

So there's a very distinct shift in tone from the sort of playfulness and lightheartedness that we were experiencing as we were walking in the door to you can just sort of feel her pull away.