James Harkin

Of course you do.

You married him.

But you tend to think you've attracted someone gorgeous.

If you're with someone, you tend to think your partner's really attractive, naturally.

So we do know there's an effect where people overrate how attractive they think their partners are.

I'm not saying your partner is overrated.

I think this is in general.

I think you're just asking, basically, of course, because you're with them, you will say, well, I think that person's, you know, really gorgeous.

Whereas maybe a neutral jury of their peers might say they're reasonably good looking.

I know, I'm listening.

I can hear listeners' marriages cracking up all over the place.

Our survey said...

Well, the fascinating thing is that people also overestimate their partner's IQs by a thumping amount.

Because surely you think, well, they're smart because they picked me.

They're with me.

Right.

It's between 36 and 38 IQ points that people overrate their partner's intelligence.

What it turns out is that your partner is a hideous moron.

I'm so sorry.

That's fascinating.