James Sexton

We know that the human mind has a very fascinating ability to make a concept very tangible.

So God is a concept, but ooh, buddy, does it become very tangible?

People will kill for it, die for it, the whole nine.

And one of the ways we lock that in is by putting people through a ritual.

And so he was going through all these different like coming of age rituals used to be a thing and all that stuff.

And so I was like, exactly.

So I said, okay, I want to be different the day after I get married than the day before.

And so I went through a ritualistic scarification.

I wanted it to be painful.

When I tell people it was a tattoo, they always get disappointed, but

uh for me it's the only tattoo i've ever gotten it's the only tattoo i will ever get and i specifically wanted to do something that i didn't want i did not want a tattoo i hated needles at the time not that i loved it i was going to say if you said you hated tattoos you and i are very very different but uh i certainly didn't want to do it but i wanted to go through something painful and i wanted a permanent reminder that i'm a different person now yeah

And having that psychology, going into it like that, going in saying, okay, listen, barring, you know, certain things.

Obviously, if my wife was unfaithful or was in some way cruel or abusive or whatever, in a way that crosses some line, then sure, I would not stay in a loveless marriage or anything like that.

But I wanted to make divorce like an absolute, like, that is, you're burning the whole thing down.

That is not the thing that you do to get rid of termites.

You don't decapitate to get rid of the dandruff.

Yeah.

This really, really, really needs to be something that we protect.

So that thinking in that way, sure, is more important than the act itself.

But there was something about