Jamie Lynn Byram

And it happened the wife got a bonus for her particular work that season, and she bought herself a purse, a four-figure purse.

And when her husband found out about it, he hit the roof.

and even said that she was going to spend them just into bankruptcy, which was far from the case.

I mean, they were A-plus if I had to grade them as clients as far as reaching their goals.

But in his mind, she was a spender and was going to cause them financial harm.

And another interesting piece of it

she was done with his behavior towards her spending and other things.

And she was thinking about divorce.

So he thought the marriage was fine.

He had no understanding that there was an ounce of problem within the marriage.

And she'd already seen a divorce attorney.

So it was fascinating to me how you could have two people in the same marriage who perceived one another so differently in not only financial satisfaction, but also marital satisfaction.

And so that started...

my path of figuring out is this common is this here because sometimes when you see things you think well this is how everyone does it but then you have to realize you know that's just one couple out of you know who knows how many and so i wanted to broaden it to see is this really something or um you know is it a one-off

Yes, yes.

It was all perception meant more than reality.

And the person's perception of their spouse meant more than their perception of themselves.

Because when I did the survey, I had people look completely different.

questions in their framework of looking at themselves, but then also looking at their partner.

And the perceptions of themselves, we didn't show, nothing showed significant, but it was perceptions of the partner where the significance came in.