Jared Freed

It must be that I'm doing something wrong or he says that I'm a different person.

Yeah, of course you're a different person.

You feel like you're failing every day so you feel like shit.

And then he's telling you, why are you being such a bad vibe?

And you're like, well...

you're part of my life that I'm trying to make work and it's failing.

Right.

Right.

I don't think he wants a girlfriend at all.

Or a significant other at all.

Yeah.

I mean, her questions, are we both failing to meet each other in the way the other needs?

Is this a sign that we're fundamentally incompatible?

I think that's a strong way to put it.

I think you're just two people who are growing up.

And right.

And I've thought a lot about that as like, what type of, you know, boyfriend do I have to be at this point?

I, and I've said this before, like for that reason, I do feel like I should be better at this.

Like we should be living a life that like is a little bit more second marriage than it is first marriage.

even though I've never been married because of the age I've learned lessons via dating and having lived life a little bit and you know I think of like the arguments my parents would have growing up that were like arguments that I don't have to have you know like I should be not that I won't have arguments but just like you're more fully formed there's no thought of like