Jason McKenzie

And I decided to keep fighting because of something I saw or something that resonated with them in one of the videos I made. So I'm writing a book about grief for men. I'm publishing on Substack as I write. Just I want to get it in many people's hands. And so that seems to be being called man down. I want to continue to find ways to make an impact in a space.

But at the same time, I want to be cautious about not being like surrounded by other people's grief all day long.

But at the same time, I want to be cautious about not being like surrounded by other people's grief all day long.

But at the same time, I want to be cautious about not being like surrounded by other people's grief all day long.

Absolutely. Absolutely. And yeah, and some days, I think too, is like, I was talking to somebody about this the other day, and they were saying that people have this idea of what moving forward means, you know, and so I was talking to somebody who lost somebody really close. And he's like, yeah, some days I take it feels like I take two steps forward. And other days, I take three steps back.

Absolutely. Absolutely. And yeah, and some days, I think too, is like, I was talking to somebody about this the other day, and they were saying that people have this idea of what moving forward means, you know, and so I was talking to somebody who lost somebody really close. And he's like, yeah, some days I take it feels like I take two steps forward. And other days, I take three steps back.

Absolutely. Absolutely. And yeah, and some days, I think too, is like, I was talking to somebody about this the other day, and they were saying that people have this idea of what moving forward means, you know, and so I was talking to somebody who lost somebody really close. And he's like, yeah, some days I take it feels like I take two steps forward. And other days, I take three steps back.

And I'm like, What if you stop looking at it like that? That's not actually taking a step forward, taking a step back. It's just grief, man. Some days are great and some days totally suck. That doesn't mean you're doing something wrong or that you're regressing. It's the process, man.

And I'm like, What if you stop looking at it like that? That's not actually taking a step forward, taking a step back. It's just grief, man. Some days are great and some days totally suck. That doesn't mean you're doing something wrong or that you're regressing. It's the process, man.

And I'm like, What if you stop looking at it like that? That's not actually taking a step forward, taking a step back. It's just grief, man. Some days are great and some days totally suck. That doesn't mean you're doing something wrong or that you're regressing. It's the process, man.

Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely.

Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely.

Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely.

That's right. And yeah, I think you just said that really, really well. I just wrote a chapter in a book just the other day about this, about like focusing on what you can control. And one of the things you can control is the words that you use to describe your experience. So like the amount of people, man, who have said to me or commented on my TikTok to say things like, you know, I lost my kid.

That's right. And yeah, I think you just said that really, really well. I just wrote a chapter in a book just the other day about this, about like focusing on what you can control. And one of the things you can control is the words that you use to describe your experience. So like the amount of people, man, who have said to me or commented on my TikTok to say things like, you know, I lost my kid.

That's right. And yeah, I think you just said that really, really well. I just wrote a chapter in a book just the other day about this, about like focusing on what you can control. And one of the things you can control is the words that you use to describe your experience. So like the amount of people, man, who have said to me or commented on my TikTok to say things like, you know, I lost my kid.

I'm permanently broken. Okay. Well, you're speaking that truth into existence, right? So, or like the other things people say like a lot, well intentioned, obviously, but I mean like, oh, you know, no parent should have to lose a child or that's so unfair. Parents lose kids all the time.

I'm permanently broken. Okay. Well, you're speaking that truth into existence, right? So, or like the other things people say like a lot, well intentioned, obviously, but I mean like, oh, you know, no parent should have to lose a child or that's so unfair. Parents lose kids all the time.

I'm permanently broken. Okay. Well, you're speaking that truth into existence, right? So, or like the other things people say like a lot, well intentioned, obviously, but I mean like, oh, you know, no parent should have to lose a child or that's so unfair. Parents lose kids all the time.

It's a part of the human condition. And it's not about fairness. It's about the fact that to live some semblance of a meaningful and peaceful life, you have to be able to accept that anything can happen to anyone at any time. That's right. But if you start walking around, labeling that happens to you like that is unfair, you're not strengthening yourself, fortifying yourself at all.