Jay Shetty

Regulate before you communicate.

Here's something most people don't know.

You can't communicate well when your nervous system is dysregulated.

Neuroscience shows that when you're stressed, triggered, or defensive, blood flow literally shifts away from the prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain responsible for reasoning,

empathy and language, and it moves toward the amygdala, the part responsible for threat and survival.

Which means this, when you're activated, you don't communicate, you react.

That's why emails sound colder than intended.

That's why arguments escalate so fast.

That's why you say things and immediately think, I shouldn't have said that.

Think about this for a moment.

When someone says something in a meeting,

and it triggers you.

They stole your idea.

They cut you off.

They presented something that you know wasn't accurate.

They're getting credit.

When all of these emotions are running through your mind and you choose to speak,

you're more likely to make yourself look worse than you are to make yourself look better.

If you don't choose to regulate and you react instead of respond effectively, you actually create more issues for yourself long-term and make more people not want to listen to you than when you're able to keep your calm.

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