Jay Shetty

Clarity feels safe to the listener.

That's why long explanations often backfire.

They feel like pressure.

They feel like justification.

They feel like emotional flooding.

Effective communicators simplify.

Instead of, I just feel like this keeps happening and I don't know if you realize how much it affects me and I've tried to bring it up before.

They say,

When this happens, I feel overlooked.

I need a heads up next time.

Same truth, less noise.

Think about that for a second.

We think the more words we say, the more passionate we are, the more likely someone's going to get an understanding of it.

But the reality is, if we just say, when you do this, I feel this.

Let me know next time.

How would you like me to respond next time?

All of a sudden, we have very clear information signaled to the other person.

One of my favorite quotes from Albert Einstein says, if you can't explain something simply, you don't understand it well enough.

Simple communication is not a sign of a lack of intelligence.

It's a sign of deep understanding.