Jay Shetty

This is cartography.

You're mapping yourself through your reactions.

Here's how to use this sensitively.

The next time someone triggers you, and I mean really triggers you, the disproportionate reaction, the one you can't shake, instead of asking why are they like this, ask two different questions.

First, what specifically is being activated in me right now?

Not what did they do, what got activated.

Name the feeling as precisely as you can.

Second, where have I felt this before?

Not in this relationship, earlier, younger, way back when.

When was the first time you felt this particular flavor of hurt?

The answer to that second question is not the person in front of you.

And when you know that, when you can see that trigger as a door to something much older, you stop trying to solve the present moment and start attending to the actual source.

That is where the real healing is.

And the most aggravating person in your life is often the one holding the door open.

Mindset number four, clarity is not found, it's built through action.

This is for anyone who's waiting, waiting for the sign, waiting to feel ready, waiting for the path to become clear.

Take the first step.

I have to tell you something that I wish someone told me 10 years earlier.

The clarity is not coming before the action.

The clarity is the product of the action.