Jay Shetty

The answer to that second question is not the person in front of you.

And when you know that, when you can see that trigger as a door to something much older, you stop trying to solve the present moment and start attending to the actual source.

That is where the real healing is.

And the most aggravating person in your life is often the one holding the door open.

Mindset number four, clarity is not found, it's built through action.

This is for anyone who's waiting, waiting for the sign, waiting to feel ready, waiting for the path to become clear.

Take the first step.

I have to tell you something that I wish someone told me 10 years earlier.

The clarity is not coming before the action.

The clarity is the product of the action.

You do not think your way to a clear life

You live your way to a clear life.

The path doesn't become clear by just looking.

The path becomes clear by putting one foot in front of the other, and then it appears.

Here's the science.

The psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, whose work on flow states we've referenced before, found that people most commonly experience their deepest sense of purpose and meaning not in moments of reflection, but in moments of engaged activity.

Not when they're thinking about what they want to do, but when they're doing it.

This maps directly onto what neuroscience now knows about how the brain generates meaning.

Meaning is not a conclusion the brain reaches after sufficient contemplation.

It is a byproduct of engagement, of doing, creating, building, moving.