J.E. Skeets

It's okay to say...

And as I also say in this, if you're going to punish your kids, you shouldn't punish them frequently, but you should punish them in ways that actually matter to them.

And that's part of being involved enough to know what actually matters to your kids, right?

So the play date with one kid might not really matter, but the play date with another kid who's the best friend or the one they've really been looking forward to, if you threaten to take that away and you do take that away, that's going to sting them a little bit.

And you want, if you're going to punish them, you want it to sting a little bit for them.

And if you say you're going to do something, if you say, if you threaten a punishment, if some behavior continues and it continues, you have to follow through.

And it's not to hurt them.

It's to teach them that actions do have consequences and that they can't just kind of shock and jive their way out of a problem by being cute or smiling or crying or whatever it is.

You told them, hey, don't do this.

You gave them a warning.

They continued it.

Now the punishment is due.

That's part of learning.

Again, the world sometimes is just going to make me do things I don't want to do.

Well, see, I didn't I I guess I don't pay enough attention to Michelle Obama to know that she does that.

That seems so.

Trust me.

So bad.

pointless like what is the point of having children if you're going to run them down constantly and feel negative about them you should be rooting for your kids right like you're you are one she is rooting for them to get out

I mean, really, you're one unit.