Jeff English

We try to let folks experience or start practicing letting their outside match their inside. And that sounds like a simple goal, and it is, but it's a complex scenario. Because again, some of us have paid a price for letting our outside match our inside. And so that's really the spirit of the check-in, is to get some practice doing that, just rigorously with others. As much honesty as possible.

We try to let folks experience or start practicing letting their outside match their inside. And that sounds like a simple goal, and it is, but it's a complex scenario. Because again, some of us have paid a price for letting our outside match our inside. And so that's really the spirit of the check-in, is to get some practice doing that, just rigorously with others. As much honesty as possible.

How am I starting this day? Where am I at right now? What's on my heart? Bringing the heart and head together. Kind of how I describe that. Some folks, it's very personal and sometimes it's group dynamics. We want to introduce that. But again, it's let's just get honest. Let's get honest because I think that's the beautiful thing about the group.

How am I starting this day? Where am I at right now? What's on my heart? Bringing the heart and head together. Kind of how I describe that. Some folks, it's very personal and sometimes it's group dynamics. We want to introduce that. But again, it's let's just get honest. Let's get honest because I think that's the beautiful thing about the group.

And again, this scenario where if you can't do it with some yahoo at the bridge, I hope everybody's Facebook friends for the rest of their life. But the fact of the matter is you don't ever have to see these people again. So if you can't get honest with so-and-so or in front of so-and-so, how can you do it on the couch with the people that are closest to your heart?

And again, this scenario where if you can't do it with some yahoo at the bridge, I hope everybody's Facebook friends for the rest of their life. But the fact of the matter is you don't ever have to see these people again. So if you can't get honest with so-and-so or in front of so-and-so, how can you do it on the couch with the people that are closest to your heart?

Because those are the people who end up being, if we want to fall back on the trauma word, our biggest trauma triggers are the people that are closest to our heart. Maybe I can build some muscle memory in being vulnerable in a scenario like we've been describing. So that's the spirit of the check-in.

Because those are the people who end up being, if we want to fall back on the trauma word, our biggest trauma triggers are the people that are closest to our heart. Maybe I can build some muscle memory in being vulnerable in a scenario like we've been describing. So that's the spirit of the check-in.

The example that I'm given where this client is in this rocking back and forth, I believe I can take this client's pulse from where I'm sitting at. So I'm going to suggest that that client checks in first. It's kind of my job to notice something like that. They haven't said a crossword in my experience in the first three or four days of their journey. I haven't heard them say the word hell.

The example that I'm given where this client is in this rocking back and forth, I believe I can take this client's pulse from where I'm sitting at. So I'm going to suggest that that client checks in first. It's kind of my job to notice something like that. They haven't said a crossword in my experience in the first three or four days of their journey. I haven't heard them say the word hell.

Flat out. That was a bunch of bullshit last night. Bunch of bullshit. Nobody told us that we were going to that place. I had to sit out there. I wasn't going. Nobody told us anything about that. And let's say this client, one of their calling cards when they approached the bridge was that they were really thrilled about mentioned about nobody on a winning streak.

Flat out. That was a bunch of bullshit last night. Bunch of bullshit. Nobody told us that we were going to that place. I had to sit out there. I wasn't going. Nobody told us anything about that. And let's say this client, one of their calling cards when they approached the bridge was that they were really thrilled about mentioned about nobody on a winning streak.

But one of the wins, they're not void of wins. One of this client's wins, let's say, is that like their medication management finally was dialed in. They finally got their anxiety medication dialed in. And so this thing happened.

But one of the wins, they're not void of wins. One of this client's wins, let's say, is that like their medication management finally was dialed in. They finally got their anxiety medication dialed in. And so this thing happened.

And 18 hours later, I'm looking at this person having this response to literally what it was, was I didn't write on the board every detail that was going to happen that particular day, especially what was going to happen in the evening.

And 18 hours later, I'm looking at this person having this response to literally what it was, was I didn't write on the board every detail that was going to happen that particular day, especially what was going to happen in the evening.

Right, exactly. In this example, this is the type of reaction still 16 hours later. In this scenario, perhaps I roll the therapy dice if I have the rapport and say something to the effect of, well, at least the medications are dialed in. Perhaps there's an uncomfortable silence that's probably five seconds, but it seems like five minutes.

Right, exactly. In this example, this is the type of reaction still 16 hours later. In this scenario, perhaps I roll the therapy dice if I have the rapport and say something to the effect of, well, at least the medications are dialed in. Perhaps there's an uncomfortable silence that's probably five seconds, but it seems like five minutes.

And then maybe in this scenario, we all sigh of relief because this pissed off client smiles and laughs a little. And knowing the journey, let's say this client a day later tells their story, and they tell a story about spending a significant amount of time with a spouse who was controlling and emotionally abusive, and the spirit of their relationship sounded kind of like this. Get in the car.

And then maybe in this scenario, we all sigh of relief because this pissed off client smiles and laughs a little. And knowing the journey, let's say this client a day later tells their story, and they tell a story about spending a significant amount of time with a spouse who was controlling and emotionally abusive, and the spirit of their relationship sounded kind of like this. Get in the car.