Jeffrey Lockwood

whether we're being foolish and using the kind of reasoning like, well, I've already put four years into this relationship.

I've already put five years into this job.

I can't quit now or all of that investment is going to be gone.

And that can be kind of fallacious or dangerous thinking as well.

That almost falls in the case.

I mean, quits can be very easy, very hard.

I guess if they're really, really easy, then in some ways we'd be reluctant to even call them a quit because we've not really begun or it's a very fleeting obligation.

But taking a job, it does seem one of the things you're avoiding is what's sometimes called the sunk cost.

I've already sunk so much in that I can't get out.

Governments do that all the time.

I mean, talk about trying to get out of a war.

We've already lost this many lives.

How can we give up now?

Versus like a job where you have this sense very early on that something is not right.

This is not going anywhere.

maybe it wasn't the employment equivalent of the first date, but you weren't very far in.

In some ways, not only are you doing yourself a favor, but then that company has not invested a whole lot of training and time and resources in you either.

That might have been the best thing for all the parties concerned.

If you weren't going to flourish,

But again, that's the tough part, right, is the delay of gratification.