Jemma Sbeg

I would say 99% of the time when you have grand aspirations for a big birthday blowout and how you expect everyone to treat you, you're often disappointed. I think anytime we say that we are supposed to do something, we're supposed to be happy, we're supposed to be loved, we're supposed to have all this fun, we're supposed to just ease through this, you are setting yourself up for disappointment.

I would say 99% of the time when you have grand aspirations for a big birthday blowout and how you expect everyone to treat you, you're often disappointed. I think anytime we say that we are supposed to do something, we're supposed to be happy, we're supposed to be loved, we're supposed to have all this fun, we're supposed to just ease through this, you are setting yourself up for disappointment.

I would say 99% of the time when you have grand aspirations for a big birthday blowout and how you expect everyone to treat you, you're often disappointed. I think anytime we say that we are supposed to do something, we're supposed to be happy, we're supposed to be loved, we're supposed to have all this fun, we're supposed to just ease through this, you are setting yourself up for disappointment.

When we put should or supposed to before anything, Often, it's not going to look the way that we have imagined it. Now, I think this also comes down to comparison, right? We see people having these huge birthdays with lots and lots of friends and it looks so fun and they look celebrated and loved. Of course, we want that. That looks amazing. And so we go about trying to make that happen.

When we put should or supposed to before anything, Often, it's not going to look the way that we have imagined it. Now, I think this also comes down to comparison, right? We see people having these huge birthdays with lots and lots of friends and it looks so fun and they look celebrated and loved. Of course, we want that. That looks amazing. And so we go about trying to make that happen.

When we put should or supposed to before anything, Often, it's not going to look the way that we have imagined it. Now, I think this also comes down to comparison, right? We see people having these huge birthdays with lots and lots of friends and it looks so fun and they look celebrated and loved. Of course, we want that. That looks amazing. And so we go about trying to make that happen.

The thing that we don't see in those photos, in those pictures, is all the stress that usually comes with having those kinds of huge events and huge expectations. Now, if you are someone who specifically struggles with control, the idea of like a big birthday party that might seem really impressive and fun from the outside is probably going to cause you a lot of internal chaos.

The thing that we don't see in those photos, in those pictures, is all the stress that usually comes with having those kinds of huge events and huge expectations. Now, if you are someone who specifically struggles with control, the idea of like a big birthday party that might seem really impressive and fun from the outside is probably going to cause you a lot of internal chaos.

The thing that we don't see in those photos, in those pictures, is all the stress that usually comes with having those kinds of huge events and huge expectations. Now, if you are someone who specifically struggles with control, the idea of like a big birthday party that might seem really impressive and fun from the outside is probably going to cause you a lot of internal chaos.

for the starters you're going to want every single thing to go perfectly you're going to want it to perhaps look exactly as you imagined it and you are going to feel responsible for other people's fun tell me if you relate to this but i have often found whenever i've thrown big birthday parties i always spend about 50 of the night looking around me and making sure that people are chatting making sure that people are enjoying themselves and

for the starters you're going to want every single thing to go perfectly you're going to want it to perhaps look exactly as you imagined it and you are going to feel responsible for other people's fun tell me if you relate to this but i have often found whenever i've thrown big birthday parties i always spend about 50 of the night looking around me and making sure that people are chatting making sure that people are enjoying themselves and

for the starters you're going to want every single thing to go perfectly you're going to want it to perhaps look exactly as you imagined it and you are going to feel responsible for other people's fun tell me if you relate to this but i have often found whenever i've thrown big birthday parties i always spend about 50 of the night looking around me and making sure that people are chatting making sure that people are enjoying themselves and

I most certainly spend the first hour wondering if people are going to show up, wondering if people are going to go away and say that was fun or they're going to leave early. Now, for a day that should be focused on you and should be focused on this incredible achievement of growing up and experiencing more,

I most certainly spend the first hour wondering if people are going to show up, wondering if people are going to go away and say that was fun or they're going to leave early. Now, for a day that should be focused on you and should be focused on this incredible achievement of growing up and experiencing more,

I most certainly spend the first hour wondering if people are going to show up, wondering if people are going to go away and say that was fun or they're going to leave early. Now, for a day that should be focused on you and should be focused on this incredible achievement of growing up and experiencing more,

I find that big events like that take all of the attention you should be showing yourself off of you and onto managing other people's feelings and other people's perceptions. It often creates this experience where you can only feel happy in hindsight. You can only feel happy with rose-tinted glasses on. So throughout the day, you've probably felt very on edge, very overwhelmed, very rushed.

I find that big events like that take all of the attention you should be showing yourself off of you and onto managing other people's feelings and other people's perceptions. It often creates this experience where you can only feel happy in hindsight. You can only feel happy with rose-tinted glasses on. So throughout the day, you've probably felt very on edge, very overwhelmed, very rushed.

I find that big events like that take all of the attention you should be showing yourself off of you and onto managing other people's feelings and other people's perceptions. It often creates this experience where you can only feel happy in hindsight. You can only feel happy with rose-tinted glasses on. So throughout the day, you've probably felt very on edge, very overwhelmed, very rushed.

Then during the event, maybe you get like a couple of hours of a bit of bliss, but you're still worried about other people's feelings. And then the next morning, sometimes you even have like a bit of an emotional and social hangover. And then it still may not have met your expectations and you've put money into this party and you've put your hopes and dreams into it.

Then during the event, maybe you get like a couple of hours of a bit of bliss, but you're still worried about other people's feelings. And then the next morning, sometimes you even have like a bit of an emotional and social hangover. And then it still may not have met your expectations and you've put money into this party and you've put your hopes and dreams into it.