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Jemma Sbeg

๐Ÿ‘ค Speaker
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The Psychology of your 20s
281. Reclaim your power in dating

I became so focused on what I needed and what I wanted because I really realized after those experiences, no one else was going to advocate for me. You know, everyone else in the dating scheme, in the dating sphere was putting themselves first. So it was my turn to put myself first and it was my turn to be bossy about what I wanted.

The Psychology of your 20s
281. Reclaim your power in dating

I became so focused on what I needed and what I wanted because I really realized after those experiences, no one else was going to advocate for me. You know, everyone else in the dating scheme, in the dating sphere was putting themselves first. So it was my turn to put myself first and it was my turn to be bossy about what I wanted.

The Psychology of your 20s
281. Reclaim your power in dating

And honestly, it's funny because I think I almost went a little bit too far.

The Psychology of your 20s
281. Reclaim your power in dating

And honestly, it's funny because I think I almost went a little bit too far.

The Psychology of your 20s
281. Reclaim your power in dating

And honestly, it's funny because I think I almost went a little bit too far.

The Psychology of your 20s
281. Reclaim your power in dating

my current boyfriend I almost didn't go on a date with him it's like a funny story we tell now whereby he like hadn't confirmed plans the day of and I was texting my friends being like no a real man wouldn't treat me this way my soulmate wouldn't treat me this way I'm not going to go on this date but I gave him a second chance I'm so glad that I did and here we are now so my experience aside what is it that makes us lose our power in dating

The Psychology of your 20s
281. Reclaim your power in dating

my current boyfriend I almost didn't go on a date with him it's like a funny story we tell now whereby he like hadn't confirmed plans the day of and I was texting my friends being like no a real man wouldn't treat me this way my soulmate wouldn't treat me this way I'm not going to go on this date but I gave him a second chance I'm so glad that I did and here we are now so my experience aside what is it that makes us lose our power in dating

The Psychology of your 20s
281. Reclaim your power in dating

my current boyfriend I almost didn't go on a date with him it's like a funny story we tell now whereby he like hadn't confirmed plans the day of and I was texting my friends being like no a real man wouldn't treat me this way my soulmate wouldn't treat me this way I'm not going to go on this date but I gave him a second chance I'm so glad that I did and here we are now so my experience aside what is it that makes us lose our power in dating

The Psychology of your 20s
281. Reclaim your power in dating

I think the first reason why you may end up in a similar situation to me, kind of dating losers with people that don't treat you right, is because of repeated rejection. Being rejected by someone you like or admire, it stings on a very deep interpersonal level.

The Psychology of your 20s
281. Reclaim your power in dating

I think the first reason why you may end up in a similar situation to me, kind of dating losers with people that don't treat you right, is because of repeated rejection. Being rejected by someone you like or admire, it stings on a very deep interpersonal level.

The Psychology of your 20s
281. Reclaim your power in dating

I think the first reason why you may end up in a similar situation to me, kind of dating losers with people that don't treat you right, is because of repeated rejection. Being rejected by someone you like or admire, it stings on a very deep interpersonal level.

The Psychology of your 20s
281. Reclaim your power in dating

a great deal of human emotion is going to come from rejection and is going to emerge in the face of real, anticipated, imagined, even remembered rejection by other people. We are socially primed to experience rejection as a painful experience, almost physically painful, and then as a result of that, turn inwards looking for answers and as to why we were the ones who were wrong.

The Psychology of your 20s
281. Reclaim your power in dating

a great deal of human emotion is going to come from rejection and is going to emerge in the face of real, anticipated, imagined, even remembered rejection by other people. We are socially primed to experience rejection as a painful experience, almost physically painful, and then as a result of that, turn inwards looking for answers and as to why we were the ones who were wrong.

The Psychology of your 20s
281. Reclaim your power in dating

a great deal of human emotion is going to come from rejection and is going to emerge in the face of real, anticipated, imagined, even remembered rejection by other people. We are socially primed to experience rejection as a painful experience, almost physically painful, and then as a result of that, turn inwards looking for answers and as to why we were the ones who were wrong.

The Psychology of your 20s
281. Reclaim your power in dating

We were the ones who were different. We were the one who couldn't make this person happy or couldn't fit in. A consequence of that is that we believe that we must be the ones who have to change or who have to adapt in order to be accepted. So there was a 2000 study that found that the more rejection you experience, the more you actually do begin to cope through avoidant strategies.

The Psychology of your 20s
281. Reclaim your power in dating

We were the ones who were different. We were the one who couldn't make this person happy or couldn't fit in. A consequence of that is that we believe that we must be the ones who have to change or who have to adapt in order to be accepted. So there was a 2000 study that found that the more rejection you experience, the more you actually do begin to cope through avoidant strategies.

The Psychology of your 20s
281. Reclaim your power in dating

We were the ones who were different. We were the one who couldn't make this person happy or couldn't fit in. A consequence of that is that we believe that we must be the ones who have to change or who have to adapt in order to be accepted. So there was a 2000 study that found that the more rejection you experience, the more you actually do begin to cope through avoidant strategies.

The Psychology of your 20s
281. Reclaim your power in dating

So this was actually a study done on academics, university academics, who were told that their papers and manuscripts had either been rejected or not. And they found in the experimental condition where, you know, certain participants were having papers rejected left, right and center. The more rejections they received, fake rejections, the more they withdrew, the more they became quite hostile.

The Psychology of your 20s
281. Reclaim your power in dating

So this was actually a study done on academics, university academics, who were told that their papers and manuscripts had either been rejected or not. And they found in the experimental condition where, you know, certain participants were having papers rejected left, right and center. The more rejections they received, fake rejections, the more they withdrew, the more they became quite hostile.

The Psychology of your 20s
281. Reclaim your power in dating

So this was actually a study done on academics, university academics, who were told that their papers and manuscripts had either been rejected or not. And they found in the experimental condition where, you know, certain participants were having papers rejected left, right and center. The more rejections they received, fake rejections, the more they withdrew, the more they became quite hostile.