Jemma Sbeg

The second reason we may have lost our power in dating is because of a really unfortunate and painful experience of relationship trauma. This is going to come in a lot of forms, but some examples of relationship trauma include being cheated on.

Even repeated instances of micro cheating, being in quite an emotionally volatile relationship where you never knew where you stood, being betrayed, a traumatic breakup, just some examples. Something that many of us don't know is that relationship trauma in our late teens and our early 20s does actually have the ability to reshape our attachment style.

Even repeated instances of micro cheating, being in quite an emotionally volatile relationship where you never knew where you stood, being betrayed, a traumatic breakup, just some examples. Something that many of us don't know is that relationship trauma in our late teens and our early 20s does actually have the ability to reshape our attachment style.

Even repeated instances of micro cheating, being in quite an emotionally volatile relationship where you never knew where you stood, being betrayed, a traumatic breakup, just some examples. Something that many of us don't know is that relationship trauma in our late teens and our early 20s does actually have the ability to reshape our attachment style.

We often tend to think that our attachment style is somewhat locked in after childhood and that the only thing that influences attachment style is our parental relationships and our attachment to them. That is not true. A 2017 paper titled Adult Attachment, Stress and Romantic Relationships. I actually discovered this piece of research when I was researching my book and

We often tend to think that our attachment style is somewhat locked in after childhood and that the only thing that influences attachment style is our parental relationships and our attachment to them. That is not true. A 2017 paper titled Adult Attachment, Stress and Romantic Relationships. I actually discovered this piece of research when I was researching my book and

We often tend to think that our attachment style is somewhat locked in after childhood and that the only thing that influences attachment style is our parental relationships and our attachment to them. That is not true. A 2017 paper titled Adult Attachment, Stress and Romantic Relationships. I actually discovered this piece of research when I was researching my book and

But it found that there are three types of negative events in adulthood that can actually rewire your attachment style. So there's negative external events. This has nothing to do with your relationship, but still makes you feel unsteady. So may have been the death of a loved one or the death of a partner or an injury or a really traumatic, dangerous situation you went through with someone.

But it found that there are three types of negative events in adulthood that can actually rewire your attachment style. So there's negative external events. This has nothing to do with your relationship, but still makes you feel unsteady. So may have been the death of a loved one or the death of a partner or an injury or a really traumatic, dangerous situation you went through with someone.

But it found that there are three types of negative events in adulthood that can actually rewire your attachment style. So there's negative external events. This has nothing to do with your relationship, but still makes you feel unsteady. So may have been the death of a loved one or the death of a partner or an injury or a really traumatic, dangerous situation you went through with someone.

Then we have negative relational events. So conflict, separation, abandonment, breakup. And then cognitive or emotional events. So this may be that your attachment style has been rewired because you as a person have started experiencing heightened levels of anxiety due to some biological change, due to some cognitive change. You start seeing everything with anxiety, including your relationship.

Then we have negative relational events. So conflict, separation, abandonment, breakup. And then cognitive or emotional events. So this may be that your attachment style has been rewired because you as a person have started experiencing heightened levels of anxiety due to some biological change, due to some cognitive change. You start seeing everything with anxiety, including your relationship.

Then we have negative relational events. So conflict, separation, abandonment, breakup. And then cognitive or emotional events. So this may be that your attachment style has been rewired because you as a person have started experiencing heightened levels of anxiety due to some biological change, due to some cognitive change. You start seeing everything with anxiety, including your relationship.

The biggest one, though, is the second. Relational events, specifically negative relational events. So much trust and vulnerability goes into caring for someone and goes into loving someone. And when someone takes that trust and vulnerability and treats it like it's nothing, that does leave permanent damage.

The biggest one, though, is the second. Relational events, specifically negative relational events. So much trust and vulnerability goes into caring for someone and goes into loving someone. And when someone takes that trust and vulnerability and treats it like it's nothing, that does leave permanent damage.

The biggest one, though, is the second. Relational events, specifically negative relational events. So much trust and vulnerability goes into caring for someone and goes into loving someone. And when someone takes that trust and vulnerability and treats it like it's nothing, that does leave permanent damage.

And it may explain why we can enter a relationship entirely secure and in an entirely healthy place only to leave it anxious or avoidant or insecure and with a whole new perspective on love. So finally, the third reason we lose our power in dating is because we begin to adopt a scarcity mindset.

And it may explain why we can enter a relationship entirely secure and in an entirely healthy place only to leave it anxious or avoidant or insecure and with a whole new perspective on love. So finally, the third reason we lose our power in dating is because we begin to adopt a scarcity mindset.

And it may explain why we can enter a relationship entirely secure and in an entirely healthy place only to leave it anxious or avoidant or insecure and with a whole new perspective on love. So finally, the third reason we lose our power in dating is because we begin to adopt a scarcity mindset.

In other words, we let whoever it may be, the media, our married friends, our parents, we let them convince us that we are running out of time to find a quote unquote good one. The scarcity mindset, it's actually an economics term and it refers to the belief that a resource is limited and that results in us making irrational decisions.