Jemma Spike

This is responsible for self-referential thinking, for autobiographical memory.

Suddenly these different

new but old parts of you, you become really awakened to it.

People report leaving periods of solitude or leaving voluntary time spent by themselves with a whole new sense of themselves that feels almost...

ancient and authentic to them.

In such an emotionally, socially stimulated world and environment where your phone can essentially give you any emotion that you want to feel, when it's so much easier to talk to people or let other people regulate our emotions for us, stepping away from that and just allowing ourselves to just be

incredibly flexible and in our own world and on our own timeline even just for a week is such a spiritual experience to be honest especially if you like combine it with travel we've done a whole episode on like the psychology of solo travel with all of the statistics and the findings and the studies on the power of this but i think it's one of the best things that you can do

My final thing on this list, the final thing I think you need to do in your 20s, change your mind about something.

Change your mind about a belief, about a person, about an opinion.

This is something that I've done in the past year that humbled me deeply and then

Genuinely changed my life because a lot of our, I think our youth, I don't know, our youth, our younger years is like a whole part of growing up is that you is putting yourself at the center, right?

When you're a kid, you're at the center of all your own stories.

You're at the center of all your own experiences.

Same as when you're a teenager, right?

When you're in your 20s as well, like there is a real, I don't know, like developmental incentive to be quite selfish and self-centered and to really think that you know everything and to be right because it's protecting your ego, right?

And it's protecting your identity and it's trying to make you feel good about yourself, right?

I think one of the biggest signs of maturity and one of the biggest signs that like you have really learned some solid lessons from your 20s is when you are able to say, this is something I once believed and I do not believe it anymore.

And I'm okay with the friction that causes within myself.

I am okay with acknowledging that I was wrong and that I am not a perfect person and that somebody else might know more than me and that somebody else's opinion might be more correct than mine.

I just think that that is so great for cognitive flexibility, so great for our relationships.