Jen Cohen

No contact.

Like if you're secure, what is your take on all of this?

You know, I find that to be also like, again, spot on.

Like, I think that we're so quick to label somebody.

That's why therapy to me, I find to be kind of counterproductive and useless because you're having someone there who is like, you know, your cheerleader who's like egging you.

Like, yes, yes, he's an avoidant.

Yes, yes, no content.

And it's like, I guess because I'm such a realist, the way I would see it is like, well, why can't it just be what it is?

Which is maybe the person just isn't attracted to you, just doesn't want to be with you.

Why does there have to be something more to it where now you build up this whole reason of why you're not together beyond what is just the fact?

She doesn't want to have sex with you.

I think it comes down to the foundation.

You keep on saying, like, this book could be one page, which is, are you attracted to him?

Is he attracted to you?

Okay, and end of story.

It does help a lot.

It does.

But all of this rhetoric and jargon over like the most basic thing, like all of this stuff, like, oh, he's a narcissist.

Oh, she's an avoidant.

Oh, he's a no contact.