Jennifer Parlamis
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They remained angry no matter what the response was.
However, we did measure a separate emotion, something that looked at overall well-being.
We called it emotional tone.
And we found that emotional tone did change significantly after getting a response from the other party.
And this is what we thought, and we concluded that this is why people keep venting.
It's because venting is not just an emotional process.
Venting is also a social and relational process.
So we felt better, we felt heard, we felt less alone.
So we vented.
And so that's the answer to the second question.
Why do we keep doing it?
Because we might not be impacting our anger, but we are feeling better overall.
That's not the whole story.
One more thing.
So when I asked you before, some people raised their hand about venting.
Maybe some people do other things when they get angry.
Maybe you go for a really long run.
Some people said yes, yeah.
Sometimes you go to the gym, maybe work out.
Maybe you scream into a pillow.