Jennifer Selby Long
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698 appearances
14 recordings
1 series
first heard Nov 2024
last heard May 2025
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They're being wise. It goes back to that personal vision. What does that success mean to you individually? Not just the company, but for you as an individual, what's the alignment there? People will move mountains for you if they really understand how this large scale change is connected to something more than a bump up in the stock price.
or a decrease in operational overhead, but to them, their personal big whys.
I'm so glad you asked about this because I've had this conversation with so many people over the years. And I was having this conversation with someone whose boss was a micromanager and it was driving him nuts. And I sat down and said, this would be a great blog post. And this was when people were blogging on LinkedIn, that LinkedIn post garnered 45,000 views and counting.
It was shared out on the main thread through that weekend. I have never, I'm a coach. I'm not a famous person. I have never had so many views on a LinkedIn post or a blog in my life. And I recognize that This is a really big deal. Everyone faces this, right? Everyone faces this at some time.
And, you know, what happens when we exit a situation because our boss is ineffective, we're running from something versus running to something. But of course, making a change because you're running away from something usually doesn't pan out as well as when you're running towards something.
So I think there are three mistakes that I really see that these talented professionals making when they find themselves working for an ineffective boss. The first one is playing psychologist. Oh, passive-aggressive.
bad childhood won't make a decision commitment phobic right these may or may not be real issues that your boss is facing who knows but when you again this is the judge in action when you're playing psychologist with the ineffective boss you're inadvertently disempowering yourself because you're hypothesizing about a psychological issue that even if it turns out you're right you can't personally treat it you're not the psychologist right
So if you find yourself starting to go down that path of that judging, that negative emotion, just let it go. Second one, losing perspective by getting attached to one and only one solution. And And I've seen this many times in which the individual is saying, I have to persevere.
I have to turn this product line around no matter how much my funding gets cut or how often my boss and her boss change direction or I must get a big win so that boss can see how wrong he is or whatever. A common one. I'm going to HR and I'm not giving up until they fight for what's right.
Now, there's just rarely one clear-cut superior solution to the myriad problems that are caused by an ineffective boss. But there are probably better solutions and there are certainly more options. Shirzad Shamim calls it... Turning on your explore neural network where you open up to exploring more solutions to the problem before you jump ship. Right?
A third one is creating an emotional sinkhole by making it personal or taking sides in political battles. So we get this little dynamic, right? Your ineffective boss leads to lower performance on the team, which leads to stress. which leads to making it personal and taking sides in what we might call a backside covering political battle.
So when you find yourself thinking about your boss in these kind of sweeping terms, and again, you feel your judge coming on, you recognize that you're only feeding the intensely negative energy that's there. And it does nothing to help you. It does nothing to help your teammates, the people around you.
So instead, there are really five things that I think you can try to view the situation from a different perspective and then handle it in a way that's going to work well for you, whether that's staying in it or making that leap toward another job or toward starting your own business. The first one, step back from that situation and first size up the degree that
to which his or her incompetence is truly affecting you sure it's disappointing when your boss routine routinely lets you down but maybe slowing down your professional growth for a few months because they're new to the role and they're not good at it yet
That's one thing, but that's not in the same league as your entire bonus being on the line or even worse, your personal reputation being put in jeopardy with people you respect because the boss is ineffective. So size it up. It's a reflective exercise. It's subjective. It looks different for you from someone else. And even for you in different situations at different times in your life.
But it helps you calibrate that situation a little bit. Quiet down those nasty saboteurs so that you're calibrating it to your unique needs, right? Is it short term and you just want to let it stop bothering you before you make a big change?
or is this something that's really added up and you need to go and you just need to do that secondly assess if you're in a politically messy situation oh i hate this tip but if you do think you're in a politically messy situation you do have to begin some basic defensive action right employees have lost their jobs due to ineffective managers who failed to protect them Right?
So if you sense that level of risk and you feel it's important to keep your job, oh, it pains me, but you got to start documenting conversations, agreements. You got to document open items and follow up emails after conversations. Try to have more group conversations.
Oh, God, I just want to gag when I say this, but look, if you objectively size it up as politically messy, start doing those basic defensive actions. And no matter what, you must maintain your composure in a politically messy situation, no matter how absurd it becomes. The most absurd one to date is one that happened to a client about 24 years ago.
he found himself receiving the wrong performance review from his general manager, who mixed him up with another direct report and launched into the review she'd prepared for the other man. Now, I will admit, these two gentlemen were both Scandinavian. They looked a lot alike, but come on, they weren't twins. So he just maintained his composure,
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