Jesse Rogerson

So not knowing what culture this mom and daughter are from, I don't want to cast a judgment on it.

But I'm curious about the cultural background.

Well, you know, this brings up the issue that millennials and Gen Z, like very few of us made it without any help from our family post high school, post college, right?

Like the...

It is so normal now for people to move back home for a little bit or get some financial support or have some kind of like hybrid agreement just because being an adult and being financially independent has gotten so much more difficult than it was historically.

And some parents are really great at recognizing how difficult that is, and some are not.

I think that that can be explicitly negotiated, right?

That as adults, you can enter into an agreement.

And I think that we run into trouble when there isn't an explicit agreement.

I lived at home in my 20s for a bit, and the understanding was that I would cover a certain dollar amount of the groceries.

And that was an explicit discussed agreement that we had and it worked fine.

But if you don't have an actual conversation about it and both people, or if you have a conversation, one person just kind of agrees because they feel they have to, but they don't really feel good about it.

I'm wondering if the mom doesn't feel quite good about the agreement they've laid out in this situation, right?

So you can always update the agreement.

Like let's say something changes, update that agreement.

Yeah, and I think people have kind of a reactive, a response to the word boundaries because it's become so diluted.

Boundaries are the distance that is needed for both people to feel good about being in each other's lives, right?

And you might need to have an explicit conversation with your parents.

Like, you know, mom, I am really grateful that I'm living at home and that you're able to support me as I'm getting on my feet.

I really don't love that you went through my room while I was at work.