Jessica Baum

She will override what we all think she should do to stay in relationship to not face the fear of losing her person. She's surviving and staying in an attachment that gives the illusion of being safer or more security. Then leaving and facing the deep well of aloneness or emptiness, her system knows that she might have to face without him. Honestly, that was me.

She will override what we all think she should do to stay in relationship to not face the fear of losing her person. She's surviving and staying in an attachment that gives the illusion of being safer or more security. Then leaving and facing the deep well of aloneness or emptiness, her system knows that she might have to face without him. Honestly, that was me.

She will override what we all think she should do to stay in relationship to not face the fear of losing her person. She's surviving and staying in an attachment that gives the illusion of being safer or more security. Then leaving and facing the deep well of aloneness or emptiness, her system knows that she might have to face without him. Honestly, that was me.

Often it's not about the other person's behavior. It's not about this guy's behavior. It's about what part of myself do I need to face if I actually leave this relationship that's terrifying me. Her brain is going to work really hard to minimize things to keep connection with him. And everybody on the outside is going to look at this and it's very black and white.

Often it's not about the other person's behavior. It's not about this guy's behavior. It's about what part of myself do I need to face if I actually leave this relationship that's terrifying me. Her brain is going to work really hard to minimize things to keep connection with him. And everybody on the outside is going to look at this and it's very black and white.

Often it's not about the other person's behavior. It's not about this guy's behavior. It's about what part of myself do I need to face if I actually leave this relationship that's terrifying me. Her brain is going to work really hard to minimize things to keep connection with him. And everybody on the outside is going to look at this and it's very black and white.

But when you're on the inside and you're living it, it's not that black and white. And it wasn't that black and white for Ashley either. I mean, I had to meet Ashley and I had to say, of course, you love him. Of course, you miss him. Of course, tell me about the good years. It wouldn't have worked if I just went in black and white with you, Ashley, just wouldn't have worked.

But when you're on the inside and you're living it, it's not that black and white. And it wasn't that black and white for Ashley either. I mean, I had to meet Ashley and I had to say, of course, you love him. Of course, you miss him. Of course, tell me about the good years. It wouldn't have worked if I just went in black and white with you, Ashley, just wouldn't have worked.

But when you're on the inside and you're living it, it's not that black and white. And it wasn't that black and white for Ashley either. I mean, I had to meet Ashley and I had to say, of course, you love him. Of course, you miss him. Of course, tell me about the good years. It wouldn't have worked if I just went in black and white with you, Ashley, just wouldn't have worked.

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