Jessie Stephens

And is it a rebellion against this push of marriage is hard, marriage is hard?

We grew up, I think, millennials and Gen X grew up with it is something you need to work at.

Like it was all about labour.

And I wonder if...

There was an interesting passage that sort of said marriage isn't hard, it's actually really easy because you get married, you get presents, you go on a honeymoon, it's lovely, and then there's no performance plan, there's no manager, there's no boss that comes in and says you guys are doing a bad job.

You can just settle and stop talking and be rude to each other if neither of you want to leave.

And so I wonder if it's just going is marriage –

An adjective or is it a verb?

Are you married, full stop, or is it something you need to do?

It's kind of like parenting.

Which is also stonewalling, which is the word that means, you know, they talk about the four horsemen that lead to the end of a marriage and it's criticism.

And this is a dynamic that's sort of brought up in the article where someone just ends up stonewalling and going, I'm not going to respond.

I'm not going to engage.

When you start talking, I get distracted and I walk out and mow the lawn, whatever it is.

And I think that quiet quitting is a mixture of all of those things.

Because the other one, of course, is

and they say that that's the biggest predictor of divorce.

And you can tell with a lot of this there's contempt and there is, it's like they don't want to be mean to each other.

So it's like you totally disengage.

Raising tiny humans is a big job.