Jillian Turecki

Absolutely.

Absolutely.

Oh, The Gottmans.

Oh, The Gottmans.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah, very much so. Listen, I didn't tell the truth either. You know, that was a very, very big part of my pain in relationships. Yeah, I mean, all of these truths are both based on my professional and personal experience.

Yeah, very much so. Listen, I didn't tell the truth either. You know, that was a very, very big part of my pain in relationships. Yeah, I mean, all of these truths are both based on my professional and personal experience.

There was a lot. The truth of how I felt about things. The truth about my concerns over certain things. The truth about what was really painful for me. The truth about my trauma. The truth about how something made me feel.

There was a lot. The truth of how I felt about things. The truth about my concerns over certain things. The truth about what was really painful for me. The truth about my trauma. The truth about how something made me feel.

You know, it's interesting. I think that I felt very vulnerable in that relationship, but I don't think that I was truly very vulnerable.

You know, it's interesting. I think that I felt very vulnerable in that relationship, but I don't think that I was truly very vulnerable.

Yeah, I felt, and I think a lot of people aren't vulnerable because they feel too vulnerable. Like they feel too scared, right? And so I don't think I was very vulnerable. And also I didn't take a stand when I needed to take a stand.

Yeah, I felt, and I think a lot of people aren't vulnerable because they feel too vulnerable. Like they feel too scared, right? And so I don't think I was very vulnerable. And also I didn't take a stand when I needed to take a stand.

I didn't have the strong enough boundaries. Absolutely not. I didn't want to rock the boat because I didn't want to be left. I didn't want the relationship to end. And you have to be willing to rock the boat.

I didn't have the strong enough boundaries. Absolutely not. I didn't want to rock the boat because I didn't want to be left. I didn't want the relationship to end. And you have to be willing to rock the boat.

You have to be willing to ask the questions that scare you and listen to the answers that scare you even more because for a relationship to be worth keeping, you have to risk losing it sometimes. Like sometimes it gets to that point where it's like, I have to risk this not working out because if I don't, then I'm just staying in something and putting a bandaid over it.

You have to be willing to ask the questions that scare you and listen to the answers that scare you even more because for a relationship to be worth keeping, you have to risk losing it sometimes. Like sometimes it gets to that point where it's like, I have to risk this not working out because if I don't, then I'm just staying in something and putting a bandaid over it.

But I've worked with many couples where they were married for years and they just weren't telling the truth. Again, they didn't want to hurt the other person's feelings. It was too vulnerable. They didn't know how to have these conversations. And once they started really telling the truth to each other, that's when they were able to heal.

But I've worked with many couples where they were married for years and they just weren't telling the truth. Again, they didn't want to hurt the other person's feelings. It was too vulnerable. They didn't know how to have these conversations. And once they started really telling the truth to each other, that's when they were able to heal.