Jillian Turecki

So I think that it's not just anxious that the lens through which that we see relationship shouldn't just be about attachment theory. Attachment theory is a very important layer. It is not the only layer. It's just about how were you raised? Like, were you raised to just like go out into the world and be free and be left to your own devices?

Well, if so, then you were raised to become a very independent person. Or were you raised, maybe were people a little bit more protective of you? Or were you raised around more togetherness and connection? Well, then you are gonna probably be more wired towards dependence. in a relationship. So everyone brings their different things to the table of a relationship, how they were raised.

Well, if so, then you were raised to become a very independent person. Or were you raised, maybe were people a little bit more protective of you? Or were you raised around more togetherness and connection? Well, then you are gonna probably be more wired towards dependence. in a relationship. So everyone brings their different things to the table of a relationship, how they were raised.

Well, if so, then you were raised to become a very independent person. Or were you raised, maybe were people a little bit more protective of you? Or were you raised around more togetherness and connection? Well, then you are gonna probably be more wired towards dependence. in a relationship. So everyone brings their different things to the table of a relationship, how they were raised.

Everyone has limitations. And it's really about two people being able to work within the constructs of how they were raised if they can, if they can. But no, it's not that in every relationship, there's someone who's anxious and there's someone who's avoidant. It's so much more than that. In every relationship, there's someone who believes that over-communicating is better.

Everyone has limitations. And it's really about two people being able to work within the constructs of how they were raised if they can, if they can. But no, it's not that in every relationship, there's someone who's anxious and there's someone who's avoidant. It's so much more than that. In every relationship, there's someone who believes that over-communicating is better.

Everyone has limitations. And it's really about two people being able to work within the constructs of how they were raised if they can, if they can. But no, it's not that in every relationship, there's someone who's anxious and there's someone who's avoidant. It's so much more than that. In every relationship, there's someone who believes that over-communicating is better.

And then there's someone who was raised to believe that it's best to just sweep it under the rug. There are some people who were raised to raise their voices when they're upset because that's how you show that you care and there's passion. And then there's another person who was raised to believe that, no, you keep your voices quiet.

And then there's someone who was raised to believe that it's best to just sweep it under the rug. There are some people who were raised to raise their voices when they're upset because that's how you show that you care and there's passion. And then there's another person who was raised to believe that, no, you keep your voices quiet.

And then there's someone who was raised to believe that it's best to just sweep it under the rug. There are some people who were raised to raise their voices when they're upset because that's how you show that you care and there's passion. And then there's another person who was raised to believe that, no, you keep your voices quiet.

And anytime you raise your voice, that's almost a declaration of violence. So we all have unique histories and conditioning and beliefs, and we all have our different lenses through which we see the world.

And anytime you raise your voice, that's almost a declaration of violence. So we all have unique histories and conditioning and beliefs, and we all have our different lenses through which we see the world.

And anytime you raise your voice, that's almost a declaration of violence. So we all have unique histories and conditioning and beliefs, and we all have our different lenses through which we see the world.

And sometimes, you know, often we forget that when we get into a relationship with someone, we're getting to a relationship with a very unique individual who has their own unique ways of growing up. And part of creating a healthy relationship is understanding that to talking about that, seeing if you can find a middle ground in the areas where there's a little bit of conflict or discord.

And sometimes, you know, often we forget that when we get into a relationship with someone, we're getting to a relationship with a very unique individual who has their own unique ways of growing up. And part of creating a healthy relationship is understanding that to talking about that, seeing if you can find a middle ground in the areas where there's a little bit of conflict or discord.

And sometimes, you know, often we forget that when we get into a relationship with someone, we're getting to a relationship with a very unique individual who has their own unique ways of growing up. And part of creating a healthy relationship is understanding that to talking about that, seeing if you can find a middle ground in the areas where there's a little bit of conflict or discord.

And that's what it is. It's not just anxious or avoid. There's so many layers to it.

And that's what it is. It's not just anxious or avoid. There's so many layers to it.

And that's what it is. It's not just anxious or avoid. There's so many layers to it.

First, what I want to preface this is, if you were sexually abused, there was violence, I'm not in any way suggesting, nor would I ever ask someone to forgive their parent who did that to them. I think some things don't really warrant forgiveness. It's more making peace with your past so that your story about your parent with whom you have struggled, you start to change the story a little bit.