Jillian Turecki

And what that means is you are so a master, not a master over them, but you are, they are like, they are a piece of art that you have really, that you understand like the back of your hand.

And what that means is you are so a master, not a master over them, but you are, they are like, they are a piece of art that you have really, that you understand like the back of your hand.

Yeah, you paid attention. So you're so attuned to your partner that when they're sad, you know it. When they're happy, you know it. When they're communicating to you non-verbally, like, hey, everything okay here? Like, you know them. You know what they love. You know what they hate. You know what makes them happy. You know what makes them miserable.

Yeah, you paid attention. So you're so attuned to your partner that when they're sad, you know it. When they're happy, you know it. When they're communicating to you non-verbally, like, hey, everything okay here? Like, you know them. You know what they love. You know what they hate. You know what makes them happy. You know what makes them miserable.

If you don't know these things about your partner, you know what their needs are. You know exactly what they need to feel loved. You know what they need to feel safe. You know what they need... to feel important. People get into relationships and they don't study each other and know each other.

If you don't know these things about your partner, you know what their needs are. You know exactly what they need to feel loved. You know what they need to feel safe. You know what they need... to feel important. People get into relationships and they don't study each other and know each other.

I mean, the amount of times I've worked with couples where they didn't know what the other person needed. And yes, there is, again, paradox. We have to say what it is that we need. We can't expect mind. But we also have to be interested in what the other person needs. We have to be curious.

I mean, the amount of times I've worked with couples where they didn't know what the other person needed. And yes, there is, again, paradox. We have to say what it is that we need. We can't expect mind. But we also have to be interested in what the other person needs. We have to be curious.

OK, so the third tool is so those are the communication to learn the communication. It could be therapy. It could be couples work, you know, and maybe it's not maybe it's not the classic traditional couples work. Maybe you do some, I don't know, a tantra workshop together, you know, anything that's going to bond you in some way. So I think tools where you're doing some couples work together.

OK, so the third tool is so those are the communication to learn the communication. It could be therapy. It could be couples work, you know, and maybe it's not maybe it's not the classic traditional couples work. Maybe you do some, I don't know, a tantra workshop together, you know, anything that's going to bond you in some way. So I think tools where you're doing some couples work together.

Maybe it's doing a workshop together. Maybe it's doing a trip together. Maybe it's anything that's going to deepen your bond and take it to another level. Really, really, really important.

Maybe it's doing a workshop together. Maybe it's doing a trip together. Maybe it's anything that's going to deepen your bond and take it to another level. Really, really, really important.

Yeah. So you have to keep mastering them.

Yeah. So you have to keep mastering them.

Uh-huh. Well, then you get what you tolerate in life. Then your relationship will be maybe good. If you want it, great. These are the things you got to do. It's really your choice. It's your choice. Our lives are based on the decisions that we make. No one, we're not guaranteed the relationship that we want. No one owes you a great relationship. It's based on the choices that we make.

Uh-huh. Well, then you get what you tolerate in life. Then your relationship will be maybe good. If you want it, great. These are the things you got to do. It's really your choice. It's your choice. Our lives are based on the decisions that we make. No one, we're not guaranteed the relationship that we want. No one owes you a great relationship. It's based on the choices that we make.

You can be a great person who's also, you could be the perfect catch. You're not owed the relationship. You have to make the right choices to make a relationship strong and wonderful. And you think of that as too much work. I don't know. I'd be curious to know how they approach the rest of their lives if they think that way. You know it's a lot of work staying up at night arguing.

You can be a great person who's also, you could be the perfect catch. You're not owed the relationship. You have to make the right choices to make a relationship strong and wonderful. And you think of that as too much work. I don't know. I'd be curious to know how they approach the rest of their lives if they think that way. You know it's a lot of work staying up at night arguing.

Yeah, you know it's a lot of work waking up in the morning anxious and feeling so disconnected from your partner. You know it's a lot of work trying to change your partner. You know it's a lot of work trying to be enough for your partner constantly because they don't ever acknowledge you. To me, that's exhausting. The other stuff, fun.

Yeah, you know it's a lot of work waking up in the morning anxious and feeling so disconnected from your partner. You know it's a lot of work trying to change your partner. You know it's a lot of work trying to be enough for your partner constantly because they don't ever acknowledge you. To me, that's exhausting. The other stuff, fun.