Jillian Turecki

But that's also just her.

But that's also just her.

Yeah, yeah.

Yeah, yeah.

I'm not defending the behavior. The behavior sucks. I'm just trying to explain the psychology behind it, right? And so unconsciously, it's, are you strong enough? Is there an out of control, rageful monster inside of you that I need to know about?

I'm not defending the behavior. The behavior sucks. I'm just trying to explain the psychology behind it, right? And so unconsciously, it's, are you strong enough? Is there an out of control, rageful monster inside of you that I need to know about?

Not defending the behavior. I understand. But it's crazy to me.

Not defending the behavior. I understand. But it's crazy to me.

It's absurd. It's like- Without me having to actually find safety within myself and also without understanding that like, so we all need to feel safe in our relationship, but we can't provide safety for the person who we are in. Well, no, we can, but we can't if we don't, if we're not integrated.

It's absurd. It's like- Without me having to actually find safety within myself and also without understanding that like, so we all need to feel safe in our relationship, but we can't provide safety for the person who we are in. Well, no, we can, but we can't if we don't, if we're not integrated.

Okay, so yes, that, but also I do believe that it is our responsibility in a relationship to provide safety for our partner.

Okay, so yes, that, but also I do believe that it is our responsibility in a relationship to provide safety for our partner.

There's a limit, right? We can't just keep providing safety for someone who doesn't feel safe inside themselves. Yeah, you can't call someone every hour and say- But you can't ask for safety from the person who's not integrated. who's not connected to his or her own body. Yeah.

There's a limit, right? We can't just keep providing safety for someone who doesn't feel safe inside themselves. Yeah, you can't call someone every hour and say- But you can't ask for safety from the person who's not integrated. who's not connected to his or her own body. Yeah.

Right. So like you're trying to find safety from the person who has no control over their emotions at all. It's never going to happen.

Right. So like you're trying to find safety from the person who has no control over their emotions at all. It's never going to happen.

So work on yourself emotionally. And choose a partner who's doing the same.

So work on yourself emotionally. And choose a partner who's doing the same.

Yeah.

Yeah.