Jillian Turecki

But there is no one person out there for you. I mean, there is the one, like I said in the book, and I really believe this, there's the one who you met when you were 16. There was the one who maybe you later married and then divorced. I mean, couldn't they all have been in some way soulmates and important people? I mean, and you can meet the one.

And, you know, the biggest misconception is I'll meet the one and then we are going to have a great relationship. It's like, no. you could meet the one and you could screw it all up because you didn't do any work on yourself. And so this idea that someone is going to come and complete us, I really believe, why be in a romantic relationship if it's not making your life better?

And, you know, the biggest misconception is I'll meet the one and then we are going to have a great relationship. It's like, no. you could meet the one and you could screw it all up because you didn't do any work on yourself. And so this idea that someone is going to come and complete us, I really believe, why be in a romantic relationship if it's not making your life better?

And, you know, the biggest misconception is I'll meet the one and then we are going to have a great relationship. It's like, no. you could meet the one and you could screw it all up because you didn't do any work on yourself. And so this idea that someone is going to come and complete us, I really believe, why be in a romantic relationship if it's not making your life better?

If it's not this companion and this sounding board and someone who believes in you and can hold your hand as you fight your own battles? Why? What's the point? You know, unless because the point is not sex because you can just have you don't have to have a relationship to have sex. So I do believe that there is something special, potentially special to a relationship.

If it's not this companion and this sounding board and someone who believes in you and can hold your hand as you fight your own battles? Why? What's the point? You know, unless because the point is not sex because you can just have you don't have to have a relationship to have sex. So I do believe that there is something special, potentially special to a relationship.

If it's not this companion and this sounding board and someone who believes in you and can hold your hand as you fight your own battles? Why? What's the point? You know, unless because the point is not sex because you can just have you don't have to have a relationship to have sex. So I do believe that there is something special, potentially special to a relationship.

But it's a very dangerous romanticized thought that when we meet this one person, all our problems are going to go away and that everything is going to be smoothed. It shouldn't be a crazy ride, but you're going to have to do work. And behind every great couple are a lot of difficult conversations, a lot of tears, and a lot of patience, and a lot of biting your one's own tongue.

But it's a very dangerous romanticized thought that when we meet this one person, all our problems are going to go away and that everything is going to be smoothed. It shouldn't be a crazy ride, but you're going to have to do work. And behind every great couple are a lot of difficult conversations, a lot of tears, and a lot of patience, and a lot of biting your one's own tongue.

But it's a very dangerous romanticized thought that when we meet this one person, all our problems are going to go away and that everything is going to be smoothed. It shouldn't be a crazy ride, but you're going to have to do work. And behind every great couple are a lot of difficult conversations, a lot of tears, and a lot of patience, and a lot of biting your one's own tongue.

Yeah, exactly.

Yeah, exactly.

Yeah, exactly.

Yes.

Yes.

Yes.

Yeah, I have couples, friends who have been together for 20 years. And then the 40, 50 years would obviously have to be like their parents, grandparents. And I have known them, but I have close friendships with people who have been together for decades. actually longer, you know, longer, 25 years even.

Yeah, I have couples, friends who have been together for 20 years. And then the 40, 50 years would obviously have to be like their parents, grandparents. And I have known them, but I have close friendships with people who have been together for decades. actually longer, you know, longer, 25 years even.

Yeah, I have couples, friends who have been together for 20 years. And then the 40, 50 years would obviously have to be like their parents, grandparents. And I have known them, but I have close friendships with people who have been together for decades. actually longer, you know, longer, 25 years even.

It's very, very difficult. Um, to, it's a million dollar question. I think, um, I think that if you're committed to someone and as long as you're not absolutely miserable or there isn't mistreatment of any sort, I think you have to fight for your relationship and recognize that...