Jim Jordan

It depended on the parent. Some of the people I talked to had parents Genuine problems, let's say. I'm not trying to make a distinction exactly between the kinds of problems I dealt with, but some of the parents I saw had a very ill child, for example. And that's just a whole rat's nest of insane, inevitable problems. trouble and conflict. It's certainly something that can split a marriage apart.

It depended on the parent. Some of the people I talked to had parents Genuine problems, let's say. I'm not trying to make a distinction exactly between the kinds of problems I dealt with, but some of the parents I saw had a very ill child, for example. And that's just a whole rat's nest of insane, inevitable problems. trouble and conflict. It's certainly something that can split a marriage apart.

There are other parents whose problems were very much likely a consequence of the disciplinary strategies they imposed or failed to impose. And so part of what I did with the former people was to strategize about management approaches to degenerating illness, which is the worst kind of illness, obviously, to having a child. With the disciplinary issues, well, we talked strategy and also goal.

There are other parents whose problems were very much likely a consequence of the disciplinary strategies they imposed or failed to impose. And so part of what I did with the former people was to strategize about management approaches to degenerating illness, which is the worst kind of illness, obviously, to having a child. With the disciplinary issues, well, we talked strategy and also goal.

You know, you want to have a sense in your household of how you would want the relationships and the household to operate. You need a vision of that. And that's what allows you to detect deviations from that. And then you have to negotiate disciplinary strategies when that isn't making itself manifest. It's not helpful to have children who are whiny and miserable. It's not pleasant for you.

You know, you want to have a sense in your household of how you would want the relationships and the household to operate. You need a vision of that. And that's what allows you to detect deviations from that. And then you have to negotiate disciplinary strategies when that isn't making itself manifest. It's not helpful to have children who are whiny and miserable. It's not pleasant for you.

It's not pleasant for them. Parents often use intermittent reinforcement when their children are whiny and miserable. So here's how to have a terrible child. Imagine your child will whine and complain when they want something. Okay, if you want to have that happen all the time, then vary the amount that they have to whine and complain before you capitulate unpredictably.

It's not pleasant for them. Parents often use intermittent reinforcement when their children are whiny and miserable. So here's how to have a terrible child. Imagine your child will whine and complain when they want something. Okay, if you want to have that happen all the time, then vary the amount that they have to whine and complain before you capitulate unpredictably.

That's what a slot machine does. It rewards intermittently and variably. And that's impossible to eradicate because what the child learns is if they're persistent enough, you will cave. And you do that 30 times around bedtime, for example, you'll have a problem that might take years to resolve.

That's what a slot machine does. It rewards intermittently and variably. And that's impossible to eradicate because what the child learns is if they're persistent enough, you will cave. And you do that 30 times around bedtime, for example, you'll have a problem that might take years to resolve.

Yeah, well, you know, people... It's hard. A few times, it is hard. But generally, especially with things that repeat every day, you know, mealtimes, bedtimes, these little islands of stability and routine, it's very good to be pretty rigorous around those events, even during times of illness and strife. Because otherwise you get regression in the child.

Yeah, well, you know, people... It's hard. A few times, it is hard. But generally, especially with things that repeat every day, you know, mealtimes, bedtimes, these little islands of stability and routine, it's very good to be pretty rigorous around those events, even during times of illness and strife. Because otherwise you get regression in the child.

And then, well, and then you have to deal with the consequences of the schedule, let's say, falling apart. It's good to have a vision of household peace and prosperity and abundance. Like your household is a walled garden. That's what paradise means, by the way. Paradise means walled garden. And the walls are there because they protect you from the outside and they circumscribe a space.

And then, well, and then you have to deal with the consequences of the schedule, let's say, falling apart. It's good to have a vision of household peace and prosperity and abundance. Like your household is a walled garden. That's what paradise means, by the way. Paradise means walled garden. And the walls are there because they protect you from the outside and they circumscribe a space.

And a garden is a place where nature can flourish. And if you set up a walled garden properly in your household, the children will play. And that will give you an opportunity to play house with your wife, which you want, if you have any sense. So the emergence of play in your household is an index of optimized harmony. That's an extremely useful thing to know.

And a garden is a place where nature can flourish. And if you set up a walled garden properly in your household, the children will play. And that will give you an opportunity to play house with your wife, which you want, if you have any sense. So the emergence of play in your household is an index of optimized harmony. That's an extremely useful thing to know.

Same applies in the context of a marriage.

Same applies in the context of a marriage.

Well, look, boundary is an impediment to exploration, but it's also an enclosure that produces security. So boundary as fence reduces anxiety. And that's the same thing with stable household rules. You might say, well, the rules are restrictions. It's like, yeah, but partly what they're restricting is the chaos that produces anxiety.

Well, look, boundary is an impediment to exploration, but it's also an enclosure that produces security. So boundary as fence reduces anxiety. And that's the same thing with stable household rules. You might say, well, the rules are restrictions. It's like, yeah, but partly what they're restricting is the chaos that produces anxiety.