Jim Murphy

And fear in your excellence comes from self-centeredness in general.

It comes from, we get in our own way.

That's the biggest challenge that we face.

And through three main areas, overthinking, negative thinking, or judgmental thinking, and self-consciousness.

And it all comes from a self-referential self-centeredness that's inherent in human life.

We need to think about ourselves in order to get through the day, in order to do something great.

We have to think about ourselves, but that comes with a self-consciousness and a subconscious mind that's always in protection mode.

And so it creates this unease and that leads to fear when we think about ourselves.

And that's why selfless is fearless.

Sure.

I think of ego as the part of our mind that's always threatened, always comparing, and never satisfied.

It may not be how anyone else defines it, but in order to make a difference in someone's life, you've got to be clear in your communication.

And so I try to define all the terms that I use.

And so we all have a mind that has this concern, this threat, and it leverages our deep need, our deepest need, which is for love and acceptance.

And so it says, it's that voice in your head that says, hey, if you screw this up, if you fail, not only you're not going to be loved and accepted, but you're going to get the exact opposite, which is your greatest fear.

In general, the greatest fear of humans is for rejection.

And when I think of inter-excellence, I think of self-mastery.

And when I think of self-mastery, I think of mastering the ego.

When I think of mastering the ego, I think of three things, actually.

Being unembarrassable, unoffendable, and unirritable.