Jim Murphy

If you sell more books or get more followers or more money or more promotions, you're going to get this thing that you need most.

But the flip side is if you fail, you're going to not only are you not going to get that, you're going to get the opposite.

You're going to get rejected.

And so this is always something that every human battles.

And I try never to tell anyone what to do as a coach or a friend.

What I try to do is help people clarify what they want most and help them get it.

Because I know that if you come to me and you want to be world number one in a sport...

I know that's not what you really want.

I know because I was in the same boat.

I wanted to be a superstar major league baseball player or NFL player or NBA.

And I thought that was the best possible life was to make millions of dollars and be rich and famous and have every guy want to be me and every girl want to be with me.

That's the best possible life.

I'm going to live it.

And so I obsessed about that.

But what I've learned since then in the five years of writing and researching the book is that what I've always really wanted is to feel fully alive.

I had a single story for my life.

That story was, if you get this American dream where you're hitting home runs in the big leagues and on the cover of magazines, that's the best possible life.

And that's the life meant for you.

And of course, I played five years in the minors and I did not get that life.

And I was completely devastated.