Jim VandeHei

But change that.

If you control your reality, all you've got to do is realize, listen, there's more good, high-quality information available to everybody in this room than at any point in humanity.

It's all free, and it's not even close.

If there's something you're curious about, you can Google it or check it out.

If you want to know what Elon Musk thinks or Mel Robbins would advise or Taylor Swift feels, there's probably a podcast or a video or an interview with them.

You can search that.

You can change the inputs.

You can put healthy, edifying content into your mind.

Have a better reality that you then share with other people.

Four, you control how you're seen.

This one might seem a little too absurdly self-indulgent, but it's actually a magic trick.

You control how you're seen.

When you're in a group setting, especially if it's tense or it's emotional,

Think about how other people are experiencing you.

The way I do it is I almost envision myself having this out-of-body experience, watching me through the eyes of others.

Our own eyes deceive.

Our own eyes lie.

But if you look at how other people feel and experience you, then you know the impression that you're leaving, that you want to leave.

And it really helps you, I think, be the person you want to be and have other people experience you as the person that you want to be.

This technique helped me through what was probably the hardest period of my life, but the most wondrous period of my life.