JoAnne Bass

The other thing I learned is you can never balance stuff.

Balance just doesn't happen.

So I started to use the word harmonize.

And so I try to harmonize as much as possible my life.

I like that.

And I started including my family into some of the things that are important to me at work, too.

And so it's funny because, like, you know, I would have work engagements that I that I need to go to.

I'm required to go to.

And I would tell my husband, right, like, I need you to be there, but not for everything, because I can't expect him to take on the same demand.

So I'd say you can't miss the big stuff.

I'll tell you when it's the big stuff.

And then, of course, he would give my kiddos like a $30 or $40 to join me at a dinner event because he wants to watch the football game, right?

So we learned, and it looks different for every family, but we learned to harmonize our lives.

to try to help balance, but it's a conscious decision every day.

I'm not great at it, but, and I give myself grace, but harmonizing, bringing the family into the stuff, never missing the big stuff for, for your family is really important.

Yes.

I needed that.

I get it now.

And asking your family for grace and asking your friends for grace.

You know, this time for me in in, you know, quasi retirement, this new chapter, I've told people this is like my payback tour.