Jocko Willink

The lagging measure would be success.

Then this is the thing that I did.

I shortcutted the success part and went straight to the suffering part.

And if success came without suffering, I felt like it wasn't worthy.

I felt like I hadn't worked hard enough to get it.

Nothing is going to be worthwhile that doesn't come with an associated amount of discomfort.

Therefore, when you start to feel friends around you and the people that you used to be able to speak a common language with

start to push back and start to make the quips of, oh, not drinking tonight.

Yeah.

Oh, you must be too cool for us now.

I know it hurts.

I know it hurts.

That is the lead indicator, not even the lagging indicator.

That is the lead indicator that you are doing the right thing.

If you know that there is something that you're meant to do, if you know that there's something that you're meant to change.

You will have to let certain groups, friends, routines, places, activities, recreations that you do, you're going to have to let those go.

And there is this, you know, the Rocky cut scene lasts for 90 seconds in the movie, but it can last for five years in your life.

And you have no idea whether or not it's even going to work.

And that's the bit that always got to me.

The bit that always got to me was I didn't even know if there was going to be any glory on the other side.