Jocko Willink

And he's telling me like, hey, bro, you're not the only one that lost gris.

And I'm acting like I was the only one that lost gris.

So it made me aware of that, that, again, just the way you perceive yourself is not the way other people are going to perceive you.

So we go through that.

I think it's, generally speaking, they're going to, my assumption is that what I'm doing is viewed as negative.

My assumption is that if I'm doing something, the assumption is it's viewed as negative.

And so if you assume that what you're doing is being perceived as negative, it keeps me in check from behaving in a way that is going to be perceived as negative.

I mean, to the best of your ability.

I'm not saying, you know, of course, just like every other human, we're all gonna slip up, but recognizing that like, man,

And I'm so thankful that I had a good enough relationship with this guy to tell me that.

Because otherwise, you never would have seen this disconnect between how you're perceived and what you think you're being perceived as.

And it was something.

It wasn't like I thought to myself, oh, here's how people are seeing me.

I was just acting the way I was acting.

But it was being perceived in a way that I didn't mean at all.

I didn't have any intention.

But I could see as soon as he said it, I go, oh yeah, that's right.

That's right.

You need to look at yourself.

You need to detach from, you know, the sadness and go, oh yeah, what does it look like?