John Deloney

But as long as he's paying you rent and he's Venmoing you for the Arby's meal y'all split last night, it's always going to be yours and mine.

And making a romantic relationship work that way long term.

Even the data says that cohabitating couples who live together over a long period of time, they don't do as well health wise, financial wise, happiness wise as those that say, I'm all my chips are on the table.

I'm all in.

And if you have hesitancy to go all in with him, that's a huge flashing red sign for me.

Red flag, as the kids say.

Then you need to have that conversation with him.

Because otherwise, I mean, I'm trying not to be ugly, right?

Know that I'm on your side.

We are team Courtney.

But y'all are playing house, right?

Yeah.

And he knows, let me tell you, he knows in his nervous system that you're not all in.

And that makes you more his mom than his fiance.

That makes you more his landlord, addiction specialist than his wife.

Yeah.

And I don't want to blame you for that.

I want you to trust your gut, but I want you to trust your gut all the way in either direction.

You get what I'm saying?

It's real hard.