John Delony

I still have a huge hole and I'm bleeding.

So what do you, let me put it this way.

Your feelings that you're searching for, that you're going to wake up one day and be like, oh yeah, I can totally trust him again.

Those aren't going to come without a clear path.

Yeah.

And if you're waiting for feelings to be your barometer, man, feelings are really important data.

They let us know when our body detects we're not safe.

And people who are like, you should forget your feelings.

That's dumb.

Feelings are important.

And it's also dumb, unwise to let your feelings be the leash that dragged you around the world.

Because our feelings job is not to tell us the truth.

It's just to get our attention.

And so if several months later, you're just waiting to wake up one day and be like, ah, healed.

That's not how that's going to work.

If you keep bringing it up and hitting him and you've taken his screw up and you put it in your back pocket as an ace of spades that you're going to play anytime you're getting beaten a card game, that's cruel.

It's you deciding, I want to get to the bottom of what are the things about him I don't trust.

Most of the time, I don't want to put you in this box.

I'm just going to say, generally speaking, either A,

There's something in your soul that says there's, I don't know the full story here.