John Delony

Clear it all off and just say, here's what I'm going to do.

And no matter what path you take, it's going to be hard.

It's going to be frustrating.

It's going to be fraught with big, big feelings.

And you have to change your plan.

You change your path, you know, at some point, but, um,

Clarity is kindness for you and for them.

Seek clarity and be very direct about what I'm going to do and not do.

And I know it's not going to go well.

You know it's not going to go well.

But my hope is just by using the words I'm choosing, I want you to feel re-empowered in this situation to do what the next right move is for you.

And if it's to take care of them, hook, line, and sinker, make peace with it.

I'm going to do this.

I'm going to stop fighting it, stopping angry all the time.

Or if it is, I'm going to draw some pretty firm boundaries.

And if they want to hate me and cut me off, they're grownups and that breaks my heart because they're my mom and dad, but they get to do that.

I'm going to do the next right move.

Thanks for the call, Jane.

I don't think I was any help to you at all, but hopefully I gave you some frames and some homework assignments that will help out, help clarify stuff moving forward.

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