John Delony

That's reconciliation.

Your brother-in-law does not want reconciliation.

He wants to stop feeling guilty.

Yeah, but not when they take your livelihood away from you and they burn your livelihood to the ground a second time.

So let's take your brother-in-law out of here for a second.

None of that matters.

Here's what matters.

Your husband wants to be in a relationship with his older brother again.

You can't do anything about that.

And so whining, complaining, nagging, picking at him, like that won't solve the ache in his heart, which is I want to have a relationship with my older brother, period.

I don't care what he's done to me.

So the question you and your husband have to ask is, what does that relationship look like?

And what are my roles and responsibilities as a part of your new relationship?

and you get to choose, I'm not going to choose bitter, and I'm not going to see that man.

And if your husband's a man of character, when his brother's like, where's your wife?

He says, man, she is still not over what you did to us.

And he doesn't default to, oh, no, man, you know women, they just hold on to grudges, right?

He defends you in front of the person that tried to take y'all's livelihood away.

Right.

And if he won't do that, you all need to address that conversation in your marriage.