John Graham

The mind loves visuals. The mind loves emotions. The minds love places. Like think of a restaurant. Think of a specific restaurant like Applebee's. in your hometown. I don't like Applebee's, but think of a specific restaurant.

The mind loves visuals. The mind loves emotions. The minds love places. Like think of a restaurant. Think of a specific restaurant like Applebee's. in your hometown. I don't like Applebee's, but think of a specific restaurant.

You walk into the restaurant in your mind right now and you go, oh yeah, I remember the time the waitress spilled all over my dad or the time we had this memory or the birthday party. You remember it instantly because of that location. We attach memories to locations as well. So I use strategies that involve using what the mind wants in order to remember massive amounts of information.

You walk into the restaurant in your mind right now and you go, oh yeah, I remember the time the waitress spilled all over my dad or the time we had this memory or the birthday party. You remember it instantly because of that location. We attach memories to locations as well. So I use strategies that involve using what the mind wants in order to remember massive amounts of information.

And we can all do this.

And we can all do this.

Good question. I don't get asked that often. As a child, I was very, very shy, reserved, cautious. I intuitively sought out the secrets of the universe. I was very different, and I never showed that with other people. I think I tried to fit in too much, and that blinded me for years.

Good question. I don't get asked that often. As a child, I was very, very shy, reserved, cautious. I intuitively sought out the secrets of the universe. I was very different, and I never showed that with other people. I think I tried to fit in too much, and that blinded me for years.

I just wanted to be like everyone else, but internally, and it showed up later in high school and college where I wanted to be somebody. I wanted to show my creativity to the world, but I was afraid, and We can talk about that later. There's a lot of wounding anxiety internally that suppressed what I had to bring to the world. But I always felt sort of like an alien in this world.

I just wanted to be like everyone else, but internally, and it showed up later in high school and college where I wanted to be somebody. I wanted to show my creativity to the world, but I was afraid, and We can talk about that later. There's a lot of wounding anxiety internally that suppressed what I had to bring to the world. But I always felt sort of like an alien in this world.

And maybe I am, you know, in a way. I thought that many things were possible. And I think looking back, maybe I forgot about that over all the years, just trying to fit in and be okay with the crowd.

And maybe I am, you know, in a way. I thought that many things were possible. And I think looking back, maybe I forgot about that over all the years, just trying to fit in and be okay with the crowd.

Well, you learn, or I learned, and it goes along with wanting to be somebody, right? I said earlier, I wanted to be somebody. I learned that when the adults around me had a look of disappointment or the parents or whatever, that I was doing something wrong. And internally, you try to figure out how to avoid moments like that because they're painful.

Well, you learn, or I learned, and it goes along with wanting to be somebody, right? I said earlier, I wanted to be somebody. I learned that when the adults around me had a look of disappointment or the parents or whatever, that I was doing something wrong. And internally, you try to figure out how to avoid moments like that because they're painful.

Being embarrassed or having someone disappointed in you for your choices or what you do or your grades is extremely painful emotionally. And that's sort of the crux of where anxiety starts is you try to build your life to avoid moments like that. That's why we're always thinking ahead how to play out this scenario or what to say to this person so we don't give too much and are hurt on the inside.

Being embarrassed or having someone disappointed in you for your choices or what you do or your grades is extremely painful emotionally. And that's sort of the crux of where anxiety starts is you try to build your life to avoid moments like that. That's why we're always thinking ahead how to play out this scenario or what to say to this person so we don't give too much and are hurt on the inside.

And that developed my programming. And the best way to cope was just to be vanilla or neutral around people and not give my bold opinions or not to show my true self too much. Because what if that's embarrassing or what if they make fun of that or things like that? So I was a very, very reserved person for many, many years, even around close friends and family.

And that developed my programming. And the best way to cope was just to be vanilla or neutral around people and not give my bold opinions or not to show my true self too much. Because what if that's embarrassing or what if they make fun of that or things like that? So I was a very, very reserved person for many, many years, even around close friends and family.

The panic attacks started more within the last five years. So really late. The anxiety was probably always there. When I was 13 years old, I had a chest surgery. My sternum was kind of caved in. I have sort of like a chest bowl. Like I always joked you could eat cereal out of it if I laid down. And it was kind of cool. Like everyone loved it, but I was very insecure about it.

The panic attacks started more within the last five years. So really late. The anxiety was probably always there. When I was 13 years old, I had a chest surgery. My sternum was kind of caved in. I have sort of like a chest bowl. Like I always joked you could eat cereal out of it if I laid down. And it was kind of cool. Like everyone loved it, but I was very insecure about it.