John Miles

Paul, I'm smiling because my solo episode tomorrow, I capture the Truman Show, the movie in it.

And I use this analogy of a spotlight, but I used it differently.

When people think of the Truman Show, they often think of

the last moment when he runs into the side of the sphere that he's in.

And I think the real moment of transformation that initially gets not even noticed is when the spotlight falls from the sky as he's driving down the road and he's, what is going on?

And yet everyone around him

is acting as if everything is normal and i think a key point is we need to look for those moments because i think we do what truman does in our own lives and we have these things that are pent up and we just go along with life as normal instead of looking at the sign and then starting to build the structure of ourselves so i thought i would just end there

Paul, I always try to end by having the audience have the opportunity to understand more where they can reach out to you.

Where's the best place for them to learn more about you and your work?

Paul, it was such an honor to have you today and congratulations on this fantastic new book, What's Going Right.

I highly encourage it for all my listeners.

Thank you.

I appreciate you having me on.

That brings us to the end of today's conversation with Dr. Paul Conti.

And what stayed with me most is this.

Transformation begins the moment we become curious about ourselves instead of ashamed of ourselves.

Because so many people move through adversity carrying invisible narratives, that they're broken, that they're damaged, that something is fundamentally wrong with them.

But as Paul shared today, lasting mental health is not built through self-condemnation.

It's built through self-understanding.

Through compassionate curiosity, through awareness, and through reconnecting with what he calls our generative drive, that deeply human desire to grow, to contribute, and to make life better for ourselves and others.