John R. Miles

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Now, back to my conversation with Nick Epley.

Yes.

Why do you think people predict that these conversations that you're referencing will be awkward or unpleasant when they consistently turn out

for most people to be better than what we expect.

Nick, I want to go back to something you just talked about, reciprocity.

I saw that Sonia Libomirsky blurbed your book, and I had a great conversation with her and Harry Reese about this exact topic.

And I love how in their book, they use the concept of a relational seesaw to describe how reciprocity is working or not working.

And their work reminded me a little bit of Dan Gilbert's work, who I know you have studied.

And it's...

Yeah.

And when I look at Dan's work, some of the stuff that he talks about is we're not great at predicting what will make us happy.

Do you think social connection is one of the biggest blind spots to our happiness?