Jon Acuff

You can respect them without repeating them.

And so you as an adult get to kind of go, yeah, that worked for me, for them.

I don't think it works for me.

Like, and here's what I'm going to tweak, or here's what I'm going to change.

And sometimes it's big things.

I was on another podcast with a guy named Steven Scoggins, and he said his dad used to say, Scoggins don't get ahead, Scoggins get by.

Like imagine saying that over a kid again and again and again.

And then when he hit his early 20s and started to become successful, he had to say, oh, wow, I don't accept that we as a people, our people group doesn't get ahead, we get by.

I'm going to rewrite some new soundtracks and change the way my family functioned.

And so I think, yeah, sometimes we can inherit some kind of frameworks when it comes to, again,

perfectionism, procrastination, inner critic, imposter syndrome, all the kind of mindset issues we deal with, but you don't have to keep them the same.

You get to write your own.

Yeah, I had a friend challenge me on that.

Because ironically enough, I'm a pretty negative, pessimistic person by nature.

No.

It might be because I grew up in Massachusetts.

Maybe it's because we're wicked cold people.

But I just learned years ago, Mike, that the ROI of positivity is better than the ROI of negativity.

when I'm positive, I'm a better dad, I'm a better husband, I have better client relationships, I make more money, I feel better physically.

So I just learned over the years to practice positivity.