Jonathan Pokluda
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first heard May 2025
last heard May 2025
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I ask stadiums full of people, hey, how many of you are attracted to an 85-year-old? And almost no one raises their hand. But by the grace of God, at some point, hopefully your spouse is going to be 85 years old. And you think, oh, yeah, but I'm married to them. It's like, listen, you're still going to find the 23-year-old attractive. Yeah. Okay.
wrinkles, gravity, you know, all kinds of things happen in our bodies. As I age, I can just tell you, like, it's, I mean, I look at Monica and I's, my honeymoon pictures, and I'm just like, wow, we were, we really had it going on. And it's like, you know, now I'm middle-aged man, my hair's turning gray, and I don't like the gym as much as I once did. And so that happens for everybody.
And we're so naive. We think, no, I'm always gonna stay hot. I'm gonna get Botox. No, that's weird. That's gonna be weird. At some point, we need to make aging a great thing again because the Proverbs says that we're to esteem it. But the other thing that I would say is we way overvalue physical attraction.
And so if you're looking for a spouse, I would say consider your hand because this is helpful to me. You want to make sure you're going the same direction, okay? That's the 2 Corinthians 6, 14, to not be unequally yoked. Okay, so we're going the same direction. We're both loving God. We're chasing hard after God.
Two, this finger, this is something that you can communicate pretty dramatically with in a gesture in our culture. And so you can think about that as communication, okay? Do we communicate? Do we speak a common language? Do we understand each other? This finger, your ring finger, that's commitment. Are we committed? Are they in and out of relationships?
Are they dating a different girl on Tuesday than on Wednesday? Do they understand what commitment is? This, your opposable thumb, you gotta have your thumb to pick something up. Like without your thumb, these fingers aren't as helpful. So you have to have somebody that compliments you. That they're strong where you're weak. They're weak where you're strong. You guys together make a great team.
That's your thumb. And then your pinky, that's physical attraction. That's pink, that's chemistry. I would say this is the one that we put in first place. I'd say it has a place, it's just not first place. And in fact, if you gotta lose a finger, If I said, hey, right now, the only way you're going to live is if I get to take off a finger, that'd be weird.
But if I did say that, you're probably going to say, go ahead and take the pinky. That's the one that's the least important of the five. And what we've done is we've taken that one in fifth place and we put it in first place.
And the reason we've done that is because I think pornography, it's rewired our brains in such a way that that guys are trying to find the Mother Teresa missionary, you know, serves at her church, but looks like a porn star. And And I don't think we really understand how far porn has carried us and set us up for failure. That guys are discontent. They're afraid to commit. They're fearful.
They're not asking girls out. They're hiding behind screens. And I think it's really created quite a pretty desperate dating landscape today.
Praise God.
Which is actually selfish, not selfless. It's like, I'll ask people, what do you love? Before I do a wedding, sometimes I'll say, what do you love about them? And they'll say, I love the way he makes me feel. Well, that's about you. When biblical love is actually sacrificial love. John 21, Jesus says to Peter, do you love me? Do you agape me? And Peter says back, I do phileo you.
I do love you like a brother. And Jesus says, yeah, but do you love me sacrificially? And he says, hey, I do love you like a brother.
we're called in marriage to ephesians 5 lay our lives down for our wives everybody gets hung up on the submission yeah like wives submit to your husbands which the bible says multiple times first peter 3 ephesians 5 colossians 1 or colossians 3 uh so that wives are to submit to their husbands but it says husbands sacrifice your life for your wife that's a big as christ did the church i would argue a bigger deal you know yeah like if if a man is like hey i'm
I'm gonna put your desires first at every turn. And so, yeah, I think what you're looking for is someone that you can love selflessly and be loved by them selflessly, not so much about what they make you feel.
Yeah.
That's such a great question, brother. So I'm kind of a car guy. Like I like cars and I'm a gift guy. Like that's my love language is gifts. And so one day, this was before I was in ministry, my wife wanted like a Suburban. and again, this is when I was in corporate world and I was like, ma'am, I want to get her something really nice. And I found this Cadillac Escalade.
It's black, peanut butter interior is beautiful. And, um, And I gave it to her in this really creative way. I put it on the side of the road with a for sale sign. I knew she would see it and be like, oh, what about that? And I'd be like, oh, we can't afford that. And it's hers and all the things. And I had gotten a great price on it. And I got so caught up in the good deal.
Like this is such a good deal that I didn't go slow in the terms. I didn't have my mechanic look at it or anything. I just like, man, I found a great deal. We can afford it. She's going to love it. I'm going to surprise her. So I gave her that, that Escalade.
And I remember like the first time she was driving it, like something started rattling in the dash and then like the dash fell off and then something broke in the engine. And then we had to take it in and there was something wrong with the rear end and all this stuff started going wrong with this car. And, and it was just like one thing after the other.
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