Jonathan Pokluda
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first heard May 2025
last heard May 2025
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And so this deal all of a sudden was not a good deal. Like it was shiny. It was bright. It looked good. It was Escalade. It had the Cadillac symbol on it. It looked sharp. But man, something was really messed up with that car. And what I didn't do, Bryce, is I didn't check Carfax. I didn't check the vehicle history report. I didn't realize that it had been wrecked three times.
I didn't realize that it was involved in a flood. I didn't realize that it had seven owners. I didn't know all of these things that happened to this car, right? And so what I would say is when I was, I was, you know, in my day, they call it like a player. I was like such a player. Before I knew Jesus, I found so much identity in what the opposite sex thought of me.
And I memorized, this was my, it's so, it's embarrassing, but it was my game back in the day. It was like, I'd say, I was like, but softwood light through yonder window breaks. It is the East and Juliet is the sun. I could quote Shakespeare. That was the game I'd run, man. And you know how I knew that? Because I was in a play once upon a time where I learned it. And so I'm acting.
And a guy who really likes you can act. And a girl who really likes you can act. But what they cannot do is fake their reputation. So if you check the history report, if you're talking to exes, like if you really want to know if someone's good, if they're like, hey, you should talk to my ex-boyfriend. Like, let him tell you about me. You should talk to my ex-girlfriend. Let her tell you.
Like, if you find that person, then they're like, okay, they're dating in such a way that they're leaving people better than they found them. That's a God-honoring character trait. And so here, now I want to be careful because if Monica checked my history report, she's going to see a lot of carnage and a lot of baggage, a lot of brokenness. Like, my history was full of brokenness.
And so you wanna make sure that their repentance is more notorious than their rebellion. That everyone's like, oh man, she's changed. Yeah, she used to be a prostitute. But man, she's been following Jesus for a good two and a half years. She's discipling girls. She's sitting with them. And I use prostitute because it's a biblical word.
He used to be a pimp or he used to be a drug dealer or he used to be a terrible human being, a pornographer, a porn star, right? He used to be a porn star. But he's been following Jesus for two and a half years. He's being discipled. He's discipling guys. And so it's like I've bought vehicles to use that metaphor before. I bought vehicles with a salvage title.
I bought vehicles that were involved in big accidents or terrible wrecks or flooding or whatever it is. But I only buy them after they've been on the road for a length of time and been running well. And so when their repentance is as notorious as their rebellion, then I think, you know, they're dateable.
Yeah, I think a bigger problem is that people are sitting in their brokenness, meaning I'm not healed from pornography. I'm continuing like a dog just vomit to give in to pornography. And I would say, man, you got to get well, you got to find freedom. Now, if you're in this place where you're just struggling to forgive yourself, I would say stop because God has forgiven you.
He says in 2 Corinthians 5, 19, he's no longer counting your sins against you. In Romans 8, 1, it says, therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ. And Malachi says that he delights to show you mercy. Like what God does for fun is he shows people mercy. It's what God does for fun. It's like what he enjoys doing. And so it seems that God loves, loves, loves people.
to write a story of redemption on people who've made really bad decisions. Genesis 50, 20, what the enemy's meant for evil, God uses for our good. Romans 8, 28, we know that in all things, God is working together for the good of those who love him, who've been called according to his purpose. And so God flips the script. He takes the bad and he uses it for good when we bring it to him.
We're like, hey, we need help. Can you take this? He'll use your story. He'll take your mess and make it your message and even your ministry if you'll let him. So don't sit in shame because that's Satan. Satan will use shame. You know, we talked about this, but I've been studying spiritual warfare for the past three years.
And one of the biggest tools that the enemy uses is shame to keep us in that. And so, man, I would say to guys, if you desire marriage, listen, guys, like lean in on this. If you're a man right now listening, you're of age to be married and you desire marriage, then I would say ask out the godliest woman you know. and shoot your shot and give it a chance.
And ladies, if a God-fearing man asks you out, give him a chance. Because I can't tell you how many marriages I've done, how many weddings I've done where the wife is telling me I was not at all attracted to him at first. but I got to know him and now he's the greatest thing. And I hear that all the time. So if a God-fearing man asks you out, give him a chance.
And men, ask out the godliest woman that you know, even if she's not your epitome of attraction, she's not what you thought. Give heart a chance. Because 1 Samuel 16 says, God says, hey, I do not look at the outward appearance. I look at the heart. Ladies ask me, I do a Friday Q&A every Friday. I answer questions on this. And ladies are like, hey, this super God-fearing man asked me out.
He's so great. He's an incredible leader. Everybody loves him and respects him, but I don't find him attractive. And I'm like, you don't find godliness attractive? You don't find leadership capabilities attractive? What do you find attractive?
And if it is only, well, six pack abs, six figure salary, pre-med, if it's only these things that Hollywood told you to find attractive, I would just make sure that it's the scripture that's informing what we find attractive and not Hollywood, which has the highest divorce rate on planet earth. Okay.
Like, isn't it ironic that the people who are the worst at marriage get to inform what we should look for in marriage? Whoa. Isn't that ironic? That's crazy. It's like, we got to hit reset on this thing, man. We got to go back to the basics and people are going to argue with this episode because I've been having these arguments for over a decade now.
And so you're going to argue with me in your head, but just, just consider what I'm saying prayerfully. Like you're looking for someone. Dating is the job interview. So what's the position? as a wife or a husband, a mother or a father to your children, consider what the position is and then consider what you're looking for.
Because I see people all the time marry someone who's super hot by the world's standards, but they make a miserable spouse and they get stuck in a miserable marriage. Then they become roommates. They married for what they thought was gonna be incredible sex. Nobody's having sex. They're not even sleeping in the same room. They are roommates or less than.
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