Jonathan Pokluda
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first heard May 2025
last heard May 2025
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Most of the people can choose whoever they want on planet Earth, and most people choose incorrectly. And people argue with me, and I'm like, hey, what's the divorce rate? We can go really conservative and say 40%.
okay now if 40 of people are getting divorced so they're undoing their marriage there's this other large percentage of people who are staying married but they don't they don't they're not intimate they're they're just roommates so most people choose poorly and i would say be somebody who choose chooses correctly
yeah i mean in two words that i i people will say are outdated that's why we call that's why i called the book outdated because i was like there's so much confusion around this is i think of um biblical masculinity is god in the garden of eden saying hey i want you to bring order to this um you know there's chaos here i want you to begin to name the animals and i want you to care for them i want you to be fruitful and multiply
fill the earth and subdue it cultivate the land make beautiful things and so this is a a picture of biblical masculinity right there out of the gate um two words that i don't think are outdated just kind of protector and provider now that we can over index on these like you know can the wife be the breadwinner sure i mean like is that possible sure you're gonna have
if you marry Taylor Swift, you're going to have a really hard time outdoing her income. I imagine. Right. Yeah. And, uh, but, and, and, you know, as the protector, is there exceptions to that? If you marry, I don't know, Rhonda Rousey, like she, she may play the protector. I don't know, but yeah, she'd kill me with a name maker. Yeah.
But I'm just saying for most relationships, like if somebody kicks in the door at, at 3.00 AM, you know, and I'm like, Hey Monica, go see who that is. Like, people are gonna say, you're a terrible human being. Like, you need to get your butt out of bed and go and see who that is with a baseball bat, right? And so I think that's something to think through.
But the list, I like the hand, you know, the thing that I said. But I'll give you a verse. I really like this verse. And it's not a dating verse. I'll tell you why it's not a dating verse. That's important. Let's not end the conversation without talking why there's not a dating verse in the scripture. That's important. But a great verse is 1 Timothy 4.12.
And it says, do not let anyone look down on you because you're young. That's why I love being here. It's like you're 21. And my daughters, my kids look up to you. Their friends look up to you. And I want them to have a role model of someone who wants to give their life to telling other people about Jesus. Don't let anyone look down on you because because you're young. And then he tells us how.
But set an example for believers. OK, in speech, conduct, love, faith and purity. And he gives us five things to examine. What comes out of their mouth? What what do they say? Because Jesus tells us that what comes out of someone's mouth tells you what's in their heart. And so while you can't see someone's heart, the Bible says you can't see their heart by what comes out of their mouth.
So examine their speech, conduct, not what they do to you because they're interviewing for the job of your spouse and dating, but what do they do for someone who can do nothing for them in return? What do they do for the server? Like I've seen this about you, Bryce. We've had a few meals together. Like you are so attentive to the person serving us food. You're such a generous tipper.
You want to lead that person better than you found them. You want to positively impact them for the kingdom of God. That's the kind of person you want to marry. Someone who conducts themselves around strangers in a holy and honorable way. Speech, conduct, love. What do they love? How do they love? Faith. That's the 2 Corinthians 6.14 that we talked about. And then purity.
Are they radically committed to purity? If they say they love you, but their hand is going anywhere other than a ring box, Like, do they really love you? Or do they just want to use you? Do they just want something from you? And I think this is, we're hurting each other in the way that we date. So I really like that verse. Examine their speech, conduct, love, faith, and purity.
Set an example for believers.
Yeah, let me go slow in this turn on this one, because I don't want to be misunderstood, and there's a lot of confusion out there on this topic. And so I wrote a book, Your Story Has a Villain, and that's kind of the reason behind studying spiritual warfare for three years.
And I really think there are some strongholds in our days, demonic activity, where there's so much confusion around what it means to be a man. I think men feel beat up. I think we haven't had great examples. A lot of us haven't had great examples of fathers. Some of us had absent dads. Some of us had bad dads. And so we're looking for those role models to follow. We've coped with pornography.
Pornography, it's not just a bad idea because it rewires your brain. It's not just a bad idea because it causes you to objectify women. It's not just a bad idea because addiction to pornography is not an addiction to sex. It's an addiction to variety. So to the porn addict, monogamy is very, very difficult. In fact, it's a systematic training, a university for adultery.
It's very difficult for the porn addict to go into marriage and only love one person. By the way, I'm speaking from experience as a porn addict for over a decade. And then I got married and I was like, oh, no, what did I do? And I had to go through recovery. I had to get well. And so I think for all of these reasons, it's just kind of stripped us of drive.
It's stripped us of ambition, any kind of kingdom, godly, holy ambition. And so we're really just left with, hey, how do we just...
get through life like how do we drift through life and i think that's that the enemy is has done that then i also think there's a movement right now that um that it's it's just riddled with confusion it's like hey um it's kind of a modern feminism that says hey anything you you can do i can do
And it speaks out of both sides of its mouth because it's like, like I said, if somebody kicks in the door at 2 a.m. and I'm like, hey, Monica, go see who that is. Well, then I'm the bad guy. But if I say that I need to be the guy that always goes to see who it is, then I'm also the bad guy. So there's just so much confusion there around roles and what does that look like?
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