Jordan

My wife and I, we've been separated for about a year now.

We've been trying to work on things, but she has expressed that I'm not able to meet her emotionally.

Hey, John, how's it going?

Good brother.

What's up?

Oh, glad to, uh, take glad you could take my call.

Um,

My question to you is my wife and I, we've been separated for about a year now and we've been trying to work on things.

But she has expressed that I'm basically that I'm not able to meet her emotionally and just would love to get your advice on how I can kind of meet her there.

Yeah, so we have been married for three years and we got separated after like around two years.

What happened?

Yeah, I would say overall, I was very emotionally reactive and kind of controlling and defensive.

And I think she, at the end of the day, didn't feel safe being around me.

Yeah, I, um, definitely like some yelling.

Um, and also I think like, um, there were situations where like, if I was upset, um, I would do things that, uh, you know, I think, uh,

I think just like made her feel unsafe emotionally.

Like, you know, an example would be like when we, uh, we had like a conflict and, you know, she was like driving after and I was upset and let's say her, uh, like she had a flat tire one time.

Um, and she called me and said, you know, like that she had a flat tire.

Um, and I kind of just was like upset and said, well, like, you know, you can,

just like figure it out.