Jordan Harbinger

Have you stayed quiet when inappropriate comments were made?

In my life, almost certainly, yes.

I can't think of anything, certainly not anything horrendous, but I'm sure that it's happened.

Lately, though, like in the past 15 years, I can't think of any examples.

In fact, my friends are the guys that say, hey, you know what, I don't really ascribe to that kind of stuff, and I don't think it's helping you either when we hear that at the gym.

A lot of guys have thanked me for saying that because they don't actually believe things that they say when they say it, too.

They're just trying to relate to dudes.

So yeah, I kind of, I would say I almost kind of police it in a way that's not overly pushy or annoying in my opinion.

Yeah.

I can't think of anything in my own life either.

I guess I'd have to say the same.

I also feel like maybe I'm deluding myself, but I feel like if you don't engage in this stuff yourself, you're just way less likely to be around guys who do.

I know they exist.

Of course they do.

I use the internet, but I'm not grabbing beers with guys like this or doing a ton of business with them.

At least not when they're in this mode.

I also think, oh man, this is gonna sound like an apology or a hedge, it's not, but I also think we're kind of back to the question of how do we define inappropriate?

I remember on my first project, on my first job out of college, I was 21, I guess.

The client was in San Diego, so I would drive down from LA

on Monday morning and I would drive back Thursday night and I would often drive with this other guy who was in my class.